May Be...Hello 2017 or Bye 2016 ? What you think ?!!

Days after a days and years after years, a very normal and regular process.{I am a bit abnormal ;-)} We change a lot, not just because of incidences, physical appearance, age, emotional changes, Practical changes or hormonal changes and so on.. but fact is we change..{It is always there THE CHANGE} Many things happens and leave the impact on our personality {Both Mental and Physical}. Many incidences takes place which actually matters to us a lot. Some may be happy some may not. New people, friends get in to addition to your list of relations and many leaves due to destiny or requirements. Some stays in Heart and some occupies the space in mind.{Some are worth deleting...}

Is it really correct that we only say "It was about to happen as per destiny, We have no charge of it"? Surely it is not. we learn so many things. difference is, everyone do not note it, but surely has realization on what happened and what is to be happen. Like every year, today also I have made a list of my observations and points that I have learned from 2016. May be....it may connect to few, may be not. Try observing once...

1. Insulting somebody is the easiest way of showing who you are where as, making place in hearts of somebody is an uncommon quality.
2. Nobody recognizes you till you get fame... then why to worry while living your life... it hardly matters who criticizes or who appreciates.....
3. It's a matter of upbringing.. it shows in what you speak or address in front and back of the people.
4. Take your mind towards peace before you walk towards the direction of rest in peace...
5. It is tough to leave what you wanted since long, but once you leave it there's nothing more relaxing than this.
6. Color of dignity and happiness is the best color that lasts lifelong....
7. Life ends then and their when relations take last breath for money and outsiders...
8. Work hard, give your best... but do take care of yourself and have proper rest....
9. Everyone will become a story at the end... it’s up to you what will be the lines...
10. You look beautiful when you smile... but you will smile better when your heart is as clear as a kid...
11. Trust yourself first, rest will be taken care.
12. True Friendship is a gift given by god to very few. Think before while leaving it...
13. Use your smile to face this world, but don't allow this world to change your smile.
14. Look at the mirror, the one you are seeing is your support and competition too...
15. World is just so beautiful, you just need to change the perspective.
16. 100 reasons can be found in a day to smile, if you argue on 10 to cry.
17. Let's not your techniques of gaining peace of mind steal the others moments of peace. Think and act.
18. Stand for self first, rest will be adjusted accordingly.
19. Sometimes you come to know that your happiness is in you, you just need to understand yourself.
20. Smile is a best ornament that anyone can wear without fear. It costs nothing  and suits a lot.
21. If some do not smile and answers you in adverse, better never try to poke them again. Make your world beautiful first.
22. Every Sunday gives you opportunity to rejuvenate your thoughts and self. Give a chance to Sunday to bring something for you.
23. Miracles happens don't just believe rely on them if you are capable enough to make it happen.
24. Every storm leaves behind something; it's up to us how we are getting ready for the new Morning.
25. Sometime No Gyaan leads to thought provocation automatically.
26. Only our heart knows when we do something wrong, but if we are not ready to accept then there is something wrong.
27. Words are to be chosen wisely, it has huge strength.
28. Cross the skies but always stay connected to ground.
29. Expressions of words matters, try experiencing it when you do not like someone's for you.
30. Believe in the ultimate power, miracles will start appearing
31. Soul is important than any material thing, it remains pure only with the karma and thoughts processes of this mortal body.
32. Only faith can be the one thing which will bring your efforts to success....
33. Never make friends cause you may need them, make friends when you accept a deed to be their friend.
34. If you do something, then do it with wholehearted not with a hole in the heart.
35. How you get respect depends on how you treat others. It is like getting mirror images.
36. Words decides our existence, use it carefully. Our words are the tool to keep in or throw out of the Circle.
37. Respect Time including others. Let's not let Time turns it's face.
38. Words are important, it has power to give and get back many things in life.
39. Festival of Lights, Love and Happiness becomes precious and memorable with friends family and philanthropy.
40. Thinking in right direction leads to success for self and leads to bonding when it is for others.
41. Being child is not the ultimate reason to get the chocolate and balloon on children's day... Important is child in hearts lives forever whomsoever you are....
42. Do Not compare me with my parents, they feel proud that I am Different.
43. Few things in life need not require any monitoring... It just happens and you only have to look on till you get the results.
44. Think about yourself if you have respect and love for self, this thought gives strength to deal with everything that comes your way.
45. Your Boss can Never be your Friend, but if so, Better keep Friendship when profession is on stake.
46. If you really feel something, just speak out... we rarely get chance to do so...
47. In any case if you get the knowledge of getting ignored, then get the company of self and enjoy.
48. Appreciate the things if you observe anything good.
49. Just get out of the things, place, thoughts or anything that is disturbing you and not letting you to be you.
50. Be happy, cause you are the only source of your happiness. 

May be... you have connected to some of it, May be not. One thing is sure that everyone experienced something or the other. It May be helpful to you to say bye to 2016 peacefully.
It is a time to get ready for New experiences and New learning. Let the learning from the past guide our path in 2017, so that we will be much prepared for the later years to come.
Wish you all a very happy and prosperous 2017, Let's make it New with New Hope and thoughts to lead Life.
Happy New Year... 

Blasts of Past...Short Analysis...

What we learn and what we implement is always different. Don't you think that we always do it. Let's for example, one of my friend always curse people for their behaviours. When I tell him get chill he never accepts it. Most of the time I ignore, but fact is the words and attitude he uses is also not good. Even with friends, as we all are friends and know him, we hardly care for it. But in actual sense this attitude is keeping him away from many things. {This will apply to you and me too, we never analyse self that's why we never know how are we with others}. Those who are good or have minds keep silent and safe distance from the people they feel annoyed. Some who are revengeful they surely take their steps. and Some are just tit for tats types.
Anyways, This how our days goes. as we have most of the time discussed and observed that on daily basis you learn something, you just need to understand it. I thought to explore more on the learnings from 2016. Some quotes which I formed from the experiences I had. May be you can also find something. let's discuss it then...

1.   Never make friends cause you may need them, make friends when you accept a deed to be their friend. I have seen number of people who make friends or any relations just because they have in their mind that they may need them in future. Please don’t do this. Any relation that is based on any motives goes nowhere. It spoils things and image of yours. Total disrespect takes place when such thing happens. My buddy, Avi kaka and me always discuss on this and we both are very much of the thought line that such people are of no ethics. You may check it as and when you get in touch with such people.

2.     Think about yourself if you have respect and love for self, this thought gives strength to deal with everything that comes your way… a very simple logic is, one who loves and respects self, knows what limit he can give to others to deal with him and also knows what does respect and love means. He for sure will treat others with the same. A basic criterion is to love and respect self. If you yourself cannot then who else will?

3.     Thinking in right direction leads to success for self and leads to bonding when it is for others…We always think for self, whatever our age may be but we want to be just perfect. This is how we lead towards the success. But actual success comes when someone else gets succeeded just because of our thinking for them, cause that thinking leads to actions which dealt in the results of happiness and trust.

4.     Everyone will become a story at the end... it’s up to you what will be the lines...when I will die, it hardly matters who was I. I will be the story. But there is an option, I will be the story only when I am able to provide content during my life. Every life cannot become a story that is worth becoming a bollywood movie. But at least a life about which your next gen must feel happy if not proud. When anyhow is defined that you will be a story then why not to write in an unique good way… at least a try.

5.     Nobody recognizes you till you get fame... then why to worry while living your life... it hardly matters who criticizes or who appreciates...As we have discussed in earlier points and in last point that life you get is for once and if you live it properly once is enough. We care a lot while living. If I do this what world will say? If I deal with Such things what they will feel? If I Go there What relatives will say? And So many what, why, who, how are there while living life. It does not mean that one should stop living it.

You and Me, we both are part of what we have discussed. Basically point is we can skip ourselves from the points. this is ultimate fact and we have to face it. How we face it is an art which every individual has. But yes noticing the things happening with you is the great help that one can do to self. One must take time to analyse self and come with new Ideas for overcoming the backfoot of past. It nothing related to dwelling in past. It is just like learning from the blasts of past to enjoy the present and get the presents from Santa. Ha ha ha... 

5 points from the learning of 2016

“We cannot change our past. We cannot change the fact that people act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude” Charles R. Swindoll says it {I just got this quote, I am not aware who is Charles, but what he said is perfect}. How true, most of us live in the past at max. I am not exemption to it. It is basically a nature of us.

One thing I do different, maybe I do not implement on the things but yes what situations teach me I make a note of it, most times I do write it on my digital piece of paper. At the end of the year I take a note or say look at it, that how many quotes I have been to deal with. Every second and every moment is a teacher for life and years passes like it.

Anyways in 2016 also I have learnt a lot, few may be as similar as of 2015 and 2014 and so on... but thought to elaborate some very Important from the learning’s of 2016. Here we go…

1.     Look at the mirror, the one you are seeing is your support and competition too... we are usually obsessed with thought that we are in the world of competition and we have to win in any situation. Here we lack buddy, because competition is nothing to deal with other but with self. We have to analyze self first. If I am not able to cope with change that occurs in me, how can I expect from self that I am able to deal with others? Whatever out there is actually starts with me. Even God does nothing for them who do not wish to do anything for self. Ask yourself first when you enter in any competition.{That is what one feels}

2.     World is just so beautiful, you just need to change the perspective. I am talking about competition at the same time I wish to quote that please stay away from over confidence and over analysis of self. These things, not only cut you off from the world but also changes your perspective. Anyhow, we judge people and situations most of the times {It happens with me…} where actually requirement is to just change the perspective. Everyone one has a unique thought and style of dealing with the things.

3.     Sometimes you come to know that your happiness is in you, you just need to understand yourself. We are running and just running behind so many things to make ourselves happy. But the fact is it all depends on you. What I think, do and act makes me happy. I am the one who required deciding the parameters of Happiness and what I require is to understand self. Isn’t it? We just run behind things, if we analyze we can get the list, it may be Love, passion, Career, Happiness and so on… what other wants and what they think is the parameter of our life. How they should talk to me, what they should do for me, how they should respect me, how they talk to me, they, they they…. What I want or How should I be and treat others is on the least priority. Think on it, it will surely make difference.

4.     Every storm leaves behind something; it's up to us how we are getting ready for the new Morning. Creation, maintenance, and destruction are personified as a triad of deities, typically Brahma the creator, Vishnu the preserver, and Shiva the destroyer/transformer. Do I need to say more? It is a life cycle, I am hearing it since long, one may say since I started understanding things. If it is a universal fact then why to get disturbed while leaving things behind.  Every end has a new beginning. It is upto you how you get it.

5.     Take your mind towards peace before you walk towards the direction of rest in peace... Finally, People will disturb you, harm you, will do number of things behind you, but it is again upto you how you deal with it. Why to put your mind in trouble man, anyhow you will be resting in peace, not today but some day for sure. You and me both are not aware about that someday. Then why to keep mind in trouble always. It is better be in peace at present.

Do you Love Them...

From childhood we all have been keep hearing that time never stops. The one who came on earth, for sure have to leave one day. But are we really accepting it in a real way? No, Cause if it is true we could have altogether a different person. The one who knows what is right and what is wrong, how to deal with the situations, How to treat people and so on...
Actually we as a human being are very complex kind of creatures. We also don't know on what we think, ok fine even if we are thinking whether that is in right direction, number of confusions and finally a conclusion that whatever we were thinking is not actually required. {Sara syappa hai boss...}

I somewhere read,"No matter how good you are you can always be replaced", How true. this is applicable to everything. Why not try... But few things are exception to it. Many things can be replaced but not few, such as, your parents. They are creators of your existence. We feel bad for those who left their children on street bare bodied. We curse them, and yes this what they are eligible for. But what will you do for the people who leave their parents.



I am not able to understand the matter. May be I am not that mature to understand and digest the idea of leaving your parents for any reason.
To be very honest I agree one thing openly here, I have number of concepts which are totally different, I am very different than my parents. I am a pampered child in a core Indian way. I fight a lot with my Mom and Dad. Sometimes things are very small. But that fight is not actually A fight. Just our thoughts are different, we cannot deny the capabilities of each other. We have difference in opinions we are one at heart. Yes I accept I am immature when it comes to the matter of parents. You know something, in spite of so many differences and clash of opinions they never treat me harsh. I am still at their home. They have not thrown me out. They still feel that I am their responsibility. They still love me and treat me as they always did. My parents always taught me stand for right. They made me a person I am today, whatever the way may be but I know what they did for me. I will never leave them.
But I was amazed, when one day I visited an Old aged Home.
My small little, sawalon ka bhandar mind spillovered with the thoughts and questions.
Yaar, can anybody please tell me, that what are the greatest differences due to which anybody can leave their parents. I can understand, those who have no kids or family to take care, must take the help of such homes. here they get a new family and people for the remaining days of their lives. But what about them who has family. The one who left them here in such places.
The stories which I came across during my visit shattered me from within.
Can you imagine the reasons?
We have no Son to care about & Daughters are happy at their family.
Other says, We Have Son, But he has his life and family to deal with.
Daughter in law do not wish to stay with, we have difference of opinions.
We do not fit into their family ... and so on.
Mothers cry and speak out the way they want. They take the palloo of their's to the eyes and speak out their hearts. But Father gets hurt in deep within. He cannot express even, cause he take the responsibility that he failed as a father. Being a Man he cannot even cry {In our society women has all the copyrights over it}He just wish to say bye forever to get rid of whatever he is going through.

Man, what is this. it is nothing less than hell. The one who is not loyal to his/her parent, what society expects from them.
The one who thinks Mother is not standard and Father has no style to introduce him in society, what standard they may have.
The son in law or a daughter in law who treat the in laws in this way, what kind of treatment they deserve.
I don't know what to say on it. I can only say that I love my Parents and respect them. Time will come when roll will change.
To be very clear,
I Love my Mother, respect her for everything she did and will keep doing But I Love My Father equally. 
An heart wrenching experience which I got taught me a lot and showed the other side of society... But yes at least I am sure that in my life ever, I will Never keep any of my relation on #Ventilator 
Friends, Treat your parents keeping your future in mind, your kids observed everything and they will observe till the last breath of your #Parents . {Parents are parents, there's nothing like yours or mine if you are son or daughter in law}
Can't we change our Attitudes, to keep our future lonely free... Can't we try to bring change..Think to step towards #LetsBringChange #Daanparmita