May Be...Hello 2017 or Bye 2016 ? What you think ?!!

Days after a days and years after years, a very normal and regular process.{I am a bit abnormal ;-)} We change a lot, not just because of incidences, physical appearance, age, emotional changes, Practical changes or hormonal changes and so on.. but fact is we change..{It is always there THE CHANGE} Many things happens and leave the impact on our personality {Both Mental and Physical}. Many incidences takes place which actually matters to us a lot. Some may be happy some may not. New people, friends get in to addition to your list of relations and many leaves due to destiny or requirements. Some stays in Heart and some occupies the space in mind.{Some are worth deleting...}

Is it really correct that we only say "It was about to happen as per destiny, We have no charge of it"? Surely it is not. we learn so many things. difference is, everyone do not note it, but surely has realization on what happened and what is to be happen. Like every year, today also I have made a list of my observations and points that I have learned from 2016. May be....it may connect to few, may be not. Try observing once...

1. Insulting somebody is the easiest way of showing who you are where as, making place in hearts of somebody is an uncommon quality.
2. Nobody recognizes you till you get fame... then why to worry while living your life... it hardly matters who criticizes or who appreciates.....
3. It's a matter of upbringing.. it shows in what you speak or address in front and back of the people.
4. Take your mind towards peace before you walk towards the direction of rest in peace...
5. It is tough to leave what you wanted since long, but once you leave it there's nothing more relaxing than this.
6. Color of dignity and happiness is the best color that lasts lifelong....
7. Life ends then and their when relations take last breath for money and outsiders...
8. Work hard, give your best... but do take care of yourself and have proper rest....
9. Everyone will become a story at the end... it’s up to you what will be the lines...
10. You look beautiful when you smile... but you will smile better when your heart is as clear as a kid...
11. Trust yourself first, rest will be taken care.
12. True Friendship is a gift given by god to very few. Think before while leaving it...
13. Use your smile to face this world, but don't allow this world to change your smile.
14. Look at the mirror, the one you are seeing is your support and competition too...
15. World is just so beautiful, you just need to change the perspective.
16. 100 reasons can be found in a day to smile, if you argue on 10 to cry.
17. Let's not your techniques of gaining peace of mind steal the others moments of peace. Think and act.
18. Stand for self first, rest will be adjusted accordingly.
19. Sometimes you come to know that your happiness is in you, you just need to understand yourself.
20. Smile is a best ornament that anyone can wear without fear. It costs nothing  and suits a lot.
21. If some do not smile and answers you in adverse, better never try to poke them again. Make your world beautiful first.
22. Every Sunday gives you opportunity to rejuvenate your thoughts and self. Give a chance to Sunday to bring something for you.
23. Miracles happens don't just believe rely on them if you are capable enough to make it happen.
24. Every storm leaves behind something; it's up to us how we are getting ready for the new Morning.
25. Sometime No Gyaan leads to thought provocation automatically.
26. Only our heart knows when we do something wrong, but if we are not ready to accept then there is something wrong.
27. Words are to be chosen wisely, it has huge strength.
28. Cross the skies but always stay connected to ground.
29. Expressions of words matters, try experiencing it when you do not like someone's for you.
30. Believe in the ultimate power, miracles will start appearing
31. Soul is important than any material thing, it remains pure only with the karma and thoughts processes of this mortal body.
32. Only faith can be the one thing which will bring your efforts to success....
33. Never make friends cause you may need them, make friends when you accept a deed to be their friend.
34. If you do something, then do it with wholehearted not with a hole in the heart.
35. How you get respect depends on how you treat others. It is like getting mirror images.
36. Words decides our existence, use it carefully. Our words are the tool to keep in or throw out of the Circle.
37. Respect Time including others. Let's not let Time turns it's face.
38. Words are important, it has power to give and get back many things in life.
39. Festival of Lights, Love and Happiness becomes precious and memorable with friends family and philanthropy.
40. Thinking in right direction leads to success for self and leads to bonding when it is for others.
41. Being child is not the ultimate reason to get the chocolate and balloon on children's day... Important is child in hearts lives forever whomsoever you are....
42. Do Not compare me with my parents, they feel proud that I am Different.
43. Few things in life need not require any monitoring... It just happens and you only have to look on till you get the results.
44. Think about yourself if you have respect and love for self, this thought gives strength to deal with everything that comes your way.
45. Your Boss can Never be your Friend, but if so, Better keep Friendship when profession is on stake.
46. If you really feel something, just speak out... we rarely get chance to do so...
47. In any case if you get the knowledge of getting ignored, then get the company of self and enjoy.
48. Appreciate the things if you observe anything good.
49. Just get out of the things, place, thoughts or anything that is disturbing you and not letting you to be you.
50. Be happy, cause you are the only source of your happiness. 

May be... you have connected to some of it, May be not. One thing is sure that everyone experienced something or the other. It May be helpful to you to say bye to 2016 peacefully.
It is a time to get ready for New experiences and New learning. Let the learning from the past guide our path in 2017, so that we will be much prepared for the later years to come.
Wish you all a very happy and prosperous 2017, Let's make it New with New Hope and thoughts to lead Life.
Happy New Year... 

Blasts of Past...Short Analysis...

What we learn and what we implement is always different. Don't you think that we always do it. Let's for example, one of my friend always curse people for their behaviours. When I tell him get chill he never accepts it. Most of the time I ignore, but fact is the words and attitude he uses is also not good. Even with friends, as we all are friends and know him, we hardly care for it. But in actual sense this attitude is keeping him away from many things. {This will apply to you and me too, we never analyse self that's why we never know how are we with others}. Those who are good or have minds keep silent and safe distance from the people they feel annoyed. Some who are revengeful they surely take their steps. and Some are just tit for tats types.
Anyways, This how our days goes. as we have most of the time discussed and observed that on daily basis you learn something, you just need to understand it. I thought to explore more on the learnings from 2016. Some quotes which I formed from the experiences I had. May be you can also find something. let's discuss it then...

1.   Never make friends cause you may need them, make friends when you accept a deed to be their friend. I have seen number of people who make friends or any relations just because they have in their mind that they may need them in future. Please don’t do this. Any relation that is based on any motives goes nowhere. It spoils things and image of yours. Total disrespect takes place when such thing happens. My buddy, Avi kaka and me always discuss on this and we both are very much of the thought line that such people are of no ethics. You may check it as and when you get in touch with such people.

2.     Think about yourself if you have respect and love for self, this thought gives strength to deal with everything that comes your way… a very simple logic is, one who loves and respects self, knows what limit he can give to others to deal with him and also knows what does respect and love means. He for sure will treat others with the same. A basic criterion is to love and respect self. If you yourself cannot then who else will?

3.     Thinking in right direction leads to success for self and leads to bonding when it is for others…We always think for self, whatever our age may be but we want to be just perfect. This is how we lead towards the success. But actual success comes when someone else gets succeeded just because of our thinking for them, cause that thinking leads to actions which dealt in the results of happiness and trust.

4.     Everyone will become a story at the end... it’s up to you what will be the lines...when I will die, it hardly matters who was I. I will be the story. But there is an option, I will be the story only when I am able to provide content during my life. Every life cannot become a story that is worth becoming a bollywood movie. But at least a life about which your next gen must feel happy if not proud. When anyhow is defined that you will be a story then why not to write in an unique good way… at least a try.

5.     Nobody recognizes you till you get fame... then why to worry while living your life... it hardly matters who criticizes or who appreciates...As we have discussed in earlier points and in last point that life you get is for once and if you live it properly once is enough. We care a lot while living. If I do this what world will say? If I deal with Such things what they will feel? If I Go there What relatives will say? And So many what, why, who, how are there while living life. It does not mean that one should stop living it.

You and Me, we both are part of what we have discussed. Basically point is we can skip ourselves from the points. this is ultimate fact and we have to face it. How we face it is an art which every individual has. But yes noticing the things happening with you is the great help that one can do to self. One must take time to analyse self and come with new Ideas for overcoming the backfoot of past. It nothing related to dwelling in past. It is just like learning from the blasts of past to enjoy the present and get the presents from Santa. Ha ha ha... 

5 points from the learning of 2016

“We cannot change our past. We cannot change the fact that people act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude” Charles R. Swindoll says it {I just got this quote, I am not aware who is Charles, but what he said is perfect}. How true, most of us live in the past at max. I am not exemption to it. It is basically a nature of us.

One thing I do different, maybe I do not implement on the things but yes what situations teach me I make a note of it, most times I do write it on my digital piece of paper. At the end of the year I take a note or say look at it, that how many quotes I have been to deal with. Every second and every moment is a teacher for life and years passes like it.

Anyways in 2016 also I have learnt a lot, few may be as similar as of 2015 and 2014 and so on... but thought to elaborate some very Important from the learning’s of 2016. Here we go…

1.     Look at the mirror, the one you are seeing is your support and competition too... we are usually obsessed with thought that we are in the world of competition and we have to win in any situation. Here we lack buddy, because competition is nothing to deal with other but with self. We have to analyze self first. If I am not able to cope with change that occurs in me, how can I expect from self that I am able to deal with others? Whatever out there is actually starts with me. Even God does nothing for them who do not wish to do anything for self. Ask yourself first when you enter in any competition.{That is what one feels}

2.     World is just so beautiful, you just need to change the perspective. I am talking about competition at the same time I wish to quote that please stay away from over confidence and over analysis of self. These things, not only cut you off from the world but also changes your perspective. Anyhow, we judge people and situations most of the times {It happens with me…} where actually requirement is to just change the perspective. Everyone one has a unique thought and style of dealing with the things.

3.     Sometimes you come to know that your happiness is in you, you just need to understand yourself. We are running and just running behind so many things to make ourselves happy. But the fact is it all depends on you. What I think, do and act makes me happy. I am the one who required deciding the parameters of Happiness and what I require is to understand self. Isn’t it? We just run behind things, if we analyze we can get the list, it may be Love, passion, Career, Happiness and so on… what other wants and what they think is the parameter of our life. How they should talk to me, what they should do for me, how they should respect me, how they talk to me, they, they they…. What I want or How should I be and treat others is on the least priority. Think on it, it will surely make difference.

4.     Every storm leaves behind something; it's up to us how we are getting ready for the new Morning. Creation, maintenance, and destruction are personified as a triad of deities, typically Brahma the creator, Vishnu the preserver, and Shiva the destroyer/transformer. Do I need to say more? It is a life cycle, I am hearing it since long, one may say since I started understanding things. If it is a universal fact then why to get disturbed while leaving things behind.  Every end has a new beginning. It is upto you how you get it.

5.     Take your mind towards peace before you walk towards the direction of rest in peace... Finally, People will disturb you, harm you, will do number of things behind you, but it is again upto you how you deal with it. Why to put your mind in trouble man, anyhow you will be resting in peace, not today but some day for sure. You and me both are not aware about that someday. Then why to keep mind in trouble always. It is better be in peace at present.

Do you Love Them...

From childhood we all have been keep hearing that time never stops. The one who came on earth, for sure have to leave one day. But are we really accepting it in a real way? No, Cause if it is true we could have altogether a different person. The one who knows what is right and what is wrong, how to deal with the situations, How to treat people and so on...
Actually we as a human being are very complex kind of creatures. We also don't know on what we think, ok fine even if we are thinking whether that is in right direction, number of confusions and finally a conclusion that whatever we were thinking is not actually required. {Sara syappa hai boss...}

I somewhere read,"No matter how good you are you can always be replaced", How true. this is applicable to everything. Why not try... But few things are exception to it. Many things can be replaced but not few, such as, your parents. They are creators of your existence. We feel bad for those who left their children on street bare bodied. We curse them, and yes this what they are eligible for. But what will you do for the people who leave their parents.



I am not able to understand the matter. May be I am not that mature to understand and digest the idea of leaving your parents for any reason.
To be very honest I agree one thing openly here, I have number of concepts which are totally different, I am very different than my parents. I am a pampered child in a core Indian way. I fight a lot with my Mom and Dad. Sometimes things are very small. But that fight is not actually A fight. Just our thoughts are different, we cannot deny the capabilities of each other. We have difference in opinions we are one at heart. Yes I accept I am immature when it comes to the matter of parents. You know something, in spite of so many differences and clash of opinions they never treat me harsh. I am still at their home. They have not thrown me out. They still feel that I am their responsibility. They still love me and treat me as they always did. My parents always taught me stand for right. They made me a person I am today, whatever the way may be but I know what they did for me. I will never leave them.
But I was amazed, when one day I visited an Old aged Home.
My small little, sawalon ka bhandar mind spillovered with the thoughts and questions.
Yaar, can anybody please tell me, that what are the greatest differences due to which anybody can leave their parents. I can understand, those who have no kids or family to take care, must take the help of such homes. here they get a new family and people for the remaining days of their lives. But what about them who has family. The one who left them here in such places.
The stories which I came across during my visit shattered me from within.
Can you imagine the reasons?
We have no Son to care about & Daughters are happy at their family.
Other says, We Have Son, But he has his life and family to deal with.
Daughter in law do not wish to stay with, we have difference of opinions.
We do not fit into their family ... and so on.
Mothers cry and speak out the way they want. They take the palloo of their's to the eyes and speak out their hearts. But Father gets hurt in deep within. He cannot express even, cause he take the responsibility that he failed as a father. Being a Man he cannot even cry {In our society women has all the copyrights over it}He just wish to say bye forever to get rid of whatever he is going through.

Man, what is this. it is nothing less than hell. The one who is not loyal to his/her parent, what society expects from them.
The one who thinks Mother is not standard and Father has no style to introduce him in society, what standard they may have.
The son in law or a daughter in law who treat the in laws in this way, what kind of treatment they deserve.
I don't know what to say on it. I can only say that I love my Parents and respect them. Time will come when roll will change.
To be very clear,
I Love my Mother, respect her for everything she did and will keep doing But I Love My Father equally. 
An heart wrenching experience which I got taught me a lot and showed the other side of society... But yes at least I am sure that in my life ever, I will Never keep any of my relation on #Ventilator 
Friends, Treat your parents keeping your future in mind, your kids observed everything and they will observe till the last breath of your #Parents . {Parents are parents, there's nothing like yours or mine if you are son or daughter in law}
Can't we change our Attitudes, to keep our future lonely free... Can't we try to bring change..Think to step towards #LetsBringChange #Daanparmita

Pink, not a prank that should be taken on the color liked by girls (?)....

It was the matter of a call I received from my friend and she said,"Look finally I am giving you a topic to write on your blog", Woah, here I realised that since long I have not posted a word on my blog{As usual I am not a great writer to remember it or neither have lane of followers who wait to read the posts ;-)}

Before landing up on the point, I wish to share a story of my friend here.
For sure I am not going to share her name but this incidence may relate to many married or girls in relationship or girls with break ups.
Once I received a call from my friend and she said,"I really need a support, I am totally broken up", after my office hours we planned a meet.
when we met, before saying a single word she broke into tears.
"I really want to come out of this web" she said.
I was very sure that she is about to discuss her so called love life for which I have already suggested her to leave it.{I am not a Jodi breaker...Please}
She was in a relationship which she cannot share to anybody.
She had a boyfriend but that guy was interested in only one thing. {Sorry...} I came on conclusion on a very next moment When she told me months before that he said "I Love You but I cannot Marry you cause I have family to follow and you should marry anybody but don't ask this to me".
See boss to marry or not, is a decision of them but playing with the emotion every now and then breaks the trust on the concept altogether this is what I understand with smallest brain. She used to meet him often whenever he wants. At start it was very normal and she was on the cloud nine that she is in Love and will settle soon.
Later she came to know about the real nature of that guy. He was may be misogamist, but loved to be in relation with girls till he gets bored or that girl gets serious about the relation. (Sorry but I guess this was the only situation)
This Stupid Girl Loved him and followed whatever he liked, Even she has no option to say no to what he says, and when she said that she was... when she recollected and tried to express that she did what all he wanted, his answer was "Like you never wanted it, Like you never provoked, Like you...."and so on.. all the  coins turned crashed on her, and she is crying in front of me now.
I truly felt to slap her tight(yes I am like this sometimes), cause yes it was her fault, she allowed him to play with her emotions.
this incident flashed in front of me when came across towards the dialogue of Pink # ‘Na’ sirf ek shabd nahi… apne aap mein pura vakya hai. Ise kisi tark, spashtikaran,explanation ya vyakhya ki jaroorat nahi hoti.
#These boys must realise that No ka matlab No hota hai. Use bolne wali ladki koi parichit ho, friend ho, girlfriend ho, koi sex worker ho ya aapki apni biwi hi kyu na ho. ‘No’ means no and when someone says No, you stop. 

Anyways coming to the point, My friend gave me a topic as per her messages. She shared the dialogues from the much discussed and appreciated movie Pink. After reading her messages I again realised that I have not seen the movie yet. I made a point to watch it on the same day. To confess a bit, I saw the movie on my Tab {Sorry...}... I am really sorry for that. But loved the movie and felt "Yes, This is what people are when it comes to matter of a women, This is how they treat when it comes to matter of.......".
So let's discuss, anyhow it is not that necessary but Important is How the dialogues of Pink is True and are taken from the real situations of so called Cultured society.

# Hamare yaha ghadi ki sui, character decide karti hai : What time girl or women arrives back at home truly decides her character, it hardly matters to her family but the neighbors and other contractors of society are very keen on it. If you want to check it, then just try it once by going to any colony or society you know and any friend or known stays there but has no such unnecessary gossip contacts with the neighbors, just ask them how that girl is? They will provide you the details which the girl or the family of hers has no idea about. Even the boyfriend do not consider to make that girl his life partner who was out with him for long hours. cause if this girl stays out for long hours, she is not a Material to take in front of his family. What to say more?

#Kisi bhi ladki ko, kisi bhi ladke ke saath, kahi bhi akele nahi jana chahiye. Kyunki aisa karne pe, wahan ke log ye assume kar lete hai ki wo ladki willingly wahan pe aayi hai aur unhe usse touch karne ka license issue kar dia gaya hai. : I totally agree to this point. Now don't ask why. Every Girl knows the answer. Being a girl I can explain some points. But again just ask a boy who you know and is of nature to judge girls. You will get number of examples.

#Raat ko ladkiyan jab sadak pe akeli jaati hai to gaadiyaan slow jaati hai aur unke sheeshe neeche ho jate hai. Din mei ye mahan idea kisiko nahi aata. : Major problem of the society is, if a girl stays out for long, lets say till 11.00 for example then also that girl becomes the topic of discussion. Bhaisahab not only for the housewives chatting in the noon but the working ladies too. then what to comment about men with the same gossip girl mentality if they see girl out at night. 

# Sharab ko yaha ek galat character ki nishani maana jaata hai, sirf ladkiyon ke liye. Ladkon ke liye to ye sirf ek Health Hazard hai! : I never booze, but what's wrong if any girl does so? why it ultimately lands up on the character of that girl if she drinks. Everyone must be having their perspectives on it but why to categorize women who drinks if you do not do the same for men.

#Rock show mei hai to hint hai. Library ya mandir mein hai to hint nahi hai! Venue decide karta hai aapka character. #Jo ladkiyan party mei jaati hai aur drink karti hai, wo pushtaini hak ban jaati hai aapka: Again it is a valid point. OMG we have seen girls who managed their family very well in spite they love going out for Rock shows, were those girls fooling them. Only by seeing girls in Mandir or Library, one cannot be sure about. Actually Character word is now a days became very popular to define the person. Any tom dick and harry use it without pipping into his/her own.  Some of the user even might not aware the meaning of the word. What do you think?!

#Shahar mein ladkiyon ko akela nahi rehna chahiye. Ladke reh sakte hai par ladkiyan nahi. Akeli, independent ladkiyan, ladkon ko confuse kar deti hai.: According to the society these girls not only confuses the boys but also confuses the other members of society. For example if that girl works in a night shift of a company, then Kuch Toh Gadbad Hai, for sure something is fishy with that girl, Bla Bla Bla.... and this happens with Girls only. If they are not with their parents then they have to follow the rules as per the list given by the landlords or other residents etc etc...without even a single iteration society contractors passes the judgements.

#Agar ladkiyan, ladkon ke saath dinner ya drinks pe jaati hai to ye unki apni choice hoti hai. Avaialable hone ka sign board nahi banke jaati. : Why not yaar, if you are going out with someone for lunch, Walk, Dinner or just meet casually, can't it be a simple normal friendship. why it becomes a matter of discussion and again a point to discuss the character.

Isn't it true that not only men but the women are also equally responsible for the insult of other women. The mentality and thought process of a women for other women varies as per her observation for that women.
If she is good looking, then she is flaunting in front of men. If she is highly qualified ten she is not of their types. If she has her own style of dealing with things, then Pata hai na how is she bla bla bla... Sorry to say but this will not change for at least in near future. you will always find discrimination, if She is girl then she should do this or that, If she is girl why she require higher salaries, If she is getting higher salary then she has something fishy with the boss, If she is girl she must concentrate on kitchen even if she is working and qualified, Anyhow being girl She have to get married that she do not have any choice... Boy should like her first na, what rights she has boss...She should do this, she must do that just because she is she, a Girl a Women who loves Pink. Cause Pink is her color and later becomes her destiny. I may be wrong, but can we make the things right??

#Five Things One Should Always #Remember : Makes #difference in thinking At Least

Since childhood our parents, Grandparents and all close relatives tries that we should stay adorable as always {They always try to imbibe good things and habits..}. Time changes and definitions of being adorable also changes with it. Groups and Surroundings from childhood till the last moment of life keep rolling. {These circles are most Important factor I tell you...}, Anyways the crux of all this is simple, “We are living in a change oriented era and nothing is permanent”. What’s new in it? We all know it anyways.

But few things matters and they impact on our personality and the perception of the people who get in touch with us. When I face the creatures with different nature and altogether a weird behavior, I try not to be like that. {Anyhow, I am Weird in my own ways and sense…everybody is, but some are exceptionally superb.}...

I always wonder why people behave like they are living in an immortal or unending era… {I was aware only about the term related to Atma...} sorry entering somewhere wrong but must mention the points which I observed, Might you also… 5 Things one should always remember when in times they require to interact with weird people or in times they themselves are on the path of being nuts. These terms matters in personal and professional life too.

01. Insulting somebody is the easiest way of showing who you are, whereas making place in hearts of somebody is an uncommon quality: I have seen people insult others so easily.  I am not sure whether this is also a quality of dealing with people or not. But such individual never made place in my friend list or in list to whom I can respect or admire. When one by any ways disrespects or insults other he or she actually shows who they are. I need not require explaining much here I guess {Those who have faced they have answers and those who do it they need to cross check}... That’s why someone fairly said, “Behave or treat with others as you expect for yourself”, such quality holders has very limited area to explore their thoughts and scopes.

02. It's a matter of upbringing... It shows in what you speak or address in front and back of the people: What you speak and how you treat for sure points out on the pattern how you got nurtured. Not always parents are liable for it but people points out very first on the family background. Respecting or treating others requires a little bit focus on how you address people when they are not around you. {or else, open the horizon for all to think and predict what they want…}, With Such people no one want to built family kind or cordial relations. {I guess…}

03. Nobody recognizes you till you get fame... then why to worry while living your life... it hardly matters who criticizes or who appreciates: Anyways we should check in to the other part as well. Most of us live our lives with the concept of “what they will Say”… {Log Kya Kahenge !! Remember?}, I just know one thing, why to live with log kya kahege… If log is saying something then put them in above two categories. If you like to do something and it is good and ethical then leave it on destiny or Karma not to leave it cause Log Kya Kahenge!!

04. It is tough to leave what you wanted since long, but once you leave it there's nothing more relaxing than this: Oh yeah !! When we are talking about Leave it, then to mention precisely, leaving things are really hard whether it is good or bad. But honestly speaking once you leave anything there is nothing relaxing than the feeling of getting free from it. {Many have known it…} Whatever it may be leave it and forget it if you don’t want to be trapped.

05. Take your mind towards peace before you walk towards the direction of rest in peace: At the end why all this, it is all because everyone wants peace. In spite of making piece of mind, heading towards peace of mind is always important.  As before resting in peace you must seize a satisfaction for your soul.

There are number of formulas which will take place and everyone knows it. But we somewhere scare to implement it or take a back due to whatever reasons are. We make number of mistakes {Most of them are silly and foolish in my case…}, but Life is all about accepting the facts and making it more beautiful in a proper way which is good for self and loved ones.{Hurdles can never define your path of accomplishing your goal of Life}… Think!! we will discuss many other things soon….

A #Category Called #Women...

There are so many schemes and provisions are made available for the upliftment of women in society. But still when we talk about women serving to nation through any sector, we still require to think again. Hats off to them who are on the top with their Hard work, abilities, willpower and courage. But few points are still left somewhere. 

Recently I had a discussion with a group of a girls. The point came in front, really forced me to think on it.

We talk about reservations and exemptions to be given for uplifting the categories. No issues in it. But women are still taking a back when it comes to the motivation for participating in or appearing for any competitive exam. {Not #Mandir, #Madjid or #Dargah}

UPSC and SSC has given exception to women regarding fees for the exams. But how many are Interested in or can participate in specifically these exams. {Are they willing for this..or is the only option}

Still women irrespective of category and financial conditions, faces ample of problems for such things. Still early age marriages takes place. Anyway.... now question arises, How many from the Category called Women appear for the competitive exams when they require to pay for it and not able able to get succeed in first attempt. 

I have seen girls who really want to appear for such exams but cannot take a call because they are not able to pay as minimum as 500/- Rs for appearing. even if they manage to but in case they fail to clear {Percentage of passing and other parameters} they get such a DE-motivation that they never dare to spare any savings. Case again becomes complicated and worth thinking when they are married. 

"Women is women" with this it is already separated in one category irrespective of caste and Creed. then why not same facilities to all. {very few are there in general category who treat women as equal as men irrespective of financial conditions}. Condition of women is The Same in all so called categories.

It is not like fighting for that the reservations are to be given to women, but it is all about concept of uplifting category, empowering a class and so on. 

If anyone really want to make some difference then just a small survey is required on this topic. Rest decisions can be taken later.

#What #Women #Really #Want ?

After a gap of so many days I was meeting my friend Yesterday. It made us irritated and Annoying when we landed on discussing irrelevant and not required topics of #Bhumata #Brigade and their activities after the arrival of news again. Since 26th Jan we were actually avoiding...
Come on #Yaar there are ample of topics in this world on which we really require to think and work. Then why to deal with these pointless subjects{Anyhow I am dealing by writing all this...}.
Let's go point wise then, why me and my friend think that whatever these ladies are doing are not worth spending their energies....

How many of us , Specially ladies are in #Love with #Lord #Shani {We consider him Lord even if we know it is counted as a #Planet}? : Being an Indian {Not only Hindu Religion, I guess..} we always accepted the point that Lord Shani is a lord with anger and people always tried to please him with all #Puja's and #Rituals. Rather we observed that no one wants to deal with him due to his fear of #SadeSati {Seven and a half year of misfortune..} then why to run behind him. Let the men deal with him.{At least some who believe...}. and it is a very rare case that women asks for something to him. #Krishna and other #Bhagwana are their to fall in Love [We are hearing #Kanha's stories on this since childhood from #Radha to #Meera]...Never heard any Love story or such for #Lord #Shani. Then why not to leave him alone?

#Protest for entering in temple is not the only thing to do in this world. : Does really it matters that you are not allowed to enter in temple or only you are not allowed to enter? see boss, banning some community or some religion or cast to enter is not good. We all are against for the concepts such as #Harijan or #Achuta or any such ... If these concepts are not there and the tradition which is followed since too long never rubbed off, then why to? {And it's not like they have implemented this rule recently..}This will never secure any kind of right for anybody I guess..

Deal with the actually required concepts rather than entering in Temples or #Dargas : Why to hurt the religious sentiments of anybody and getting into trouble? Honestly speaking some things suits as it is since years and years ago. Research to explore the reasons can take place but why to force to grab the place? again it hardly makes sense.

Number of problems are there to which women deals and requires somebody to stand for. :  Is this really required to agitate or protest to enter in Temple. Is this the only remaining requirement of today's women.If yes then OK.

It is an Immature act which affects the social image of Women across the world : Just think the various areas How?

Respect of the women community gets hurt : With such senseless protests and agitations respect for the entire women community gets hurt. How embarrassing it is when you yourself know that what whatever these women are doing is actually not required. When people take prank you feel that why we being victimized even if we do not think on so.  Sometime there is a different enjoyment in the restrictions of our ancestors. 

If any Organization is formed for the Betterment of women then Points we feel that requires protest, agitations for uplift the souls of women are....

1. Education is still a point of concern for the women today.
2. In spite of entering in to temple, Entering in the major areas of decision making is required
3. Protest for Shani Temple is not that Important as Protesting to save Girl Child
4. Wearing western cloths in temple is not that important than saving women from being naked by the rapists
5. Fighting for the basic livelihood rights of women and girl child is more important than fighting and getting insulted in front of any temple.
6. Raising voice for unnecessary arguments hardly makes any difference where raising voice for the pending cases for the rights and justice for women is important.
7. Doing Puja and archana in the Shani temple with protest is nothing in front of helping abandoned, Helpless, diseased and old women on road.
8. Basic rights and dignity of women forced to be a #sex-worker   
9. Education of the girl child born to these sex-workers and their security and dignity
10. Raising the matters related to the violence is much important than creating violence for no reason
11. Accepting something and implementing to enhance the soul and importance of women is much required than accepting false tricks to gain popularity....

Whatever I expressed here is what I feel, it may appear like I have given judgements and suggestions but not justification...also haven't analyzed situtations, but....

There are number of points which requires attention of the organizations meant to focus on women causes.

Various kinds of assaults and number of issues.... If all these got eliminated then fighting for entering in temple and dargah is somewhere ok.

Honestly speaking, just move out.. not required to visit the world but just India... you will find number of issues to deal with. 

What will a women do by entering in temple or dargah after such fights if she is not happy at her personal front. and will such fights brings respect to the community ? again if Yes.. Then I am ready to accept this point too... 

Just a small request just get at least views and assurance from 25% of the women community over India that they are freed from all the problems they face being women. See boss make life worth and simple. Complicating things for no reasons increases problems not peace.

Let the women find the answers for other gigantic issues and questions... Kya fark padta hai ya aaj tak pada mandir and dargah me kadam rakhne se.. if someone says so, then what's wrong in it? some rules keeps you happy. just take the other side of the coin. Think...#what #women #really #want from the society and world?...

   

If you really #wish, you can beat #Fatal… Archana Shantanu Das doing it.

September 2014, I have found her on FB finally.  I knew her since so long when she was associated with Hedgewar Blood bank here in Nagpur. A very good singer, writer, Social worker, friendly lady and a smiling personality. We got comfortable in very first meet of ours and she became my Archu Tai. Sorry her name is Archana, Archana Shantanu Das. Honestly speaking I just knew her as Archu Tai, I never tried to know anything more about her. “Veglya Vata” an event organized by well known cultural organization of Nagpur, it was a reason of an event, and I came to know actual Archana Arun Sathe. This event of Saptak invites personalities from various fields who did path breaking work in their areas. Here I met a new Archana who is been called as Cancer Survivor. Very shockingly I wanted to react but in a very next moment I felt fantastic “What a Lady boss”. 

Everyone must be confused now. Who’s this lady to whom I am calling Archana Shantanu Das and Archana Arun Sathe.  A girl born in a typical middle class Brahmin family who lost her only earning hand, her father when she was in 12^th standard. Here started the struggle of her life where she required to take care about her mother who was always a home maker, younger brother and a sister. This young girl became a prop up to her family and started a mess where she prepared food for 25 working people daily. Later she resumed her studies and started doing pretty well.

Life was now on track and in 1990 Archana got married to an Engineer. Her happy married life encouraged her to move for the further areas of her interest related to social service and she joined Hedgewar blood Bank where she participated organizing number of Blood Donation Camps. Later she joined Saksham an NGO for blind and disable people. Here she wrote a book “Salam” and organized musical group of disabled people to perform on stage and got them in the mainstream of life. The lady who was trying to bring some light to the blinds suddenly thrown into the dark by destiny as she was diagnosed with a breast cancer in 2008. With this monster of illness she successfully came out after getting operated by Dr. Ajay Mehta. But during her treatment it was again became a victim to a black game of destiny and she lost her mother who had cancer. The fatal game of destiny did not stopped here, just after a month she lost her mother, she lost her husband too. Now Archana was totally discouraged.

Somehow, Archana stood tranquil and accepted the challenge of destiny. Somewhere she realized the message behind all this. She completed her medical transcription course and joined Central India Cancer Research Institute as a counselor. Now she started arranging workshop, seminars, Awareness Campaigns for cancer patients and early detection of Cancer. She is very inclined towards educating women regarding this monster disease.  She not only takes the camps in Nagpur but wherever she identifies, she visit and conduct the sessions. She is associated to Sadhana Charitable Trust, an NGO working for women welfare and rehabilitation of cancer patients. This trust honored her with fearless award. Archana not only helped poor people but she took oath to devote herself for such good causes. People are getting benefited from her all out efforts. She helped people to be in reach to Rajiv Gandhi Arogya Yojana and she is constantly working to motivate people to get rid from the fear of Monster Cancer.

How good it is when you realize the massage behind your life. In spite of all the problem and challenges from childhood she battled well. It is said that you are the creator of your destiny, what you sent out you get back. Archana is the live example for this. She did all good without cursing anybody for her fatal and she started receiving the good too. In the year 2012 she took a very tough decision to getting married again. Santanu Das gave her a trust to believe in it. Shantanu liked all the good in her and became companion in her mission too.  

Archana is really fearless... She has a long journey to go she says. Let us too believe that fatal is not final, show must go on…