What Have you felt !! Are you alive ?!!

We say and we feel that things changes and we too. 

It is a constant thing.

I did a small experiment, just to check that in few hours, what I receive with one foolish post {Sorry to all, it was just an activity to see the spontaneous reply}

We might not miss each other, but somebody we know may be missing some day, this thought disturbs us. It is so negative that we are not even ready to see it and acceptance is not at all near to it. 

Yesterday Received a message from someones number to whom I knew. His son posted the message that he died due to severe cardiac arrest and I was just stunned. Even I was not that ready to at least write some words of strength to him. I cannot, because I will never understand what he must be going through. 

This is a fact of life. One day I may be gone and somebody will post on my FB wall the reason why I cannot be online anymore. 

Isn't it? 

But I am not ready to accept this fact. Why me, we all may not be ready to accept this fact. 

If I go, what my husband will do, what if he gets attached to other? What my kids will do ? Where my things will be ? Who will take what ? etc etc..... will start fearing me...

but the fact is, I know nothing will come with me but I am still caring for the things. This is what makes me human.

We get the pravachans that not to get attached to anything. But why not ? Why not to get attached to the things, that are not harming anybody else. the things that make your soul happy. the things that you feel represents you. The things that do not charge anything to anybody else. The things that you still use and so on.... One day anyhow I will be not there, then killing my wants and likes will kill me for self. Attachment and Lalach the greed is two very different things. Everybody has his own definition of every concept. 

Sometimes we never think this way. Think, if there may be no new day if we don't wake up. We are busy with our own world. We are busy giving gyan to others but not implementing it to self.  In this business we missed many small things and that we realise far later. We run to earn money, fight to receive importance, we feel envy when things are not with us, We are insecure with so many things. But we live with that and keep hurting people around us. We never realise what we are doing ? 

Do we ?

We have expectations from all. Specially when it is with the people for whom we do something(Do we think what we are doing). But sometimes it stays as it is and was. Point is , are we going to run behind them. What is a Point?. I tis all very scattered and disturbing some times.  

for example, I get hurt most with the behaviours of others. I feel , why so and somebody behaves this way with me, when I am doing nothing. But I miss to realise that this the only way that person lives. It is his/her choice of dealing with the people. If I start accept this reality I may be happier.    

We are complex creatures of this earth made by god (you can name your god on whom you have faith). Some call it miracle , some destiny. 

But in this complex world we are ridiculously fabulous with our behaviours. 

My stupid post "I May Die Today, But there must be something for you to say Tomorrow that Yesterday there was a girl called Mrunal" gave me so many replies like, anger , why I posted this stupid thing, Some very good messages about me, praises, Love, blessings, Calls and so on, Some ignored and ignore to answer the stupid thing. But one thing is clear, we care the existence. but we step back always to express. 

The one who do not like you they may not feel anything, the one who loved you, liked you, admired you, was your friend etc will surely miss your presence and you may be gone, that feeling hurts them or scare them. But in reality show must go on... Even if you are gone things will not change, some other person may replace your job, If your partner is at right age he/she will remarry, Kids will find the way to tackle the loss... and all things will be at its place again after 3 days... Those who miss they will be sad for some days but still they will be following their routines. 1 photo may be hanged at your place, that too for few years. New gen or new person will not be interested to know who you were. and anyhow after a year or 2 there will be nothing. 

In all this Locha, only 1 simple thing will be there and that is, how you treated the other person. If I am not good with the person in front , then I am dead at the same point. If I insult somebody, do not respect the individual irrespective of the age and relation I have, feel insecure for no reason then I am already dead. My deeds will keep me alive in the memories of the person, anyhow as I am not a celebrity I will not be remembered by any of clip showed on TV or Movie but being a normal person I should be by How I treated you. If I miss it then everything is messed.
You will not say anything about me tomorrow that yesterday there was a girl called Mrunal !! Many have not even ready it till the end like you did. It is very nice that you gave this much time to read, So as you did it, Now replace my name with yours and read all this again by keeping you in mind. Reply me too how you felt. !!

Something... Changes...

After today, I mean on 23rd May 2020, around more than half of my age is subtracting. I mean minus 35, means 35 years completed (Whatever). such a huge number it is boss !! Girls don't share the age but I do. What's wrong in it? Why feel shy? I am not a teenager and neither do I want to act like that. I am now 35 years old, I still don't feel like that though. This comes with a responsibility to act like a mature person. I am never sorry for this number, and yes this number taught a lot.

I do not remember anything of the moment when I was born at 6 am on the 23rd day of May 1985. Maybe the people around my mother felt a burst of happiness and joy. Mother took a sigh of relief after a hell lot of pain. and I opened my eyes. What's new? Every child has the same process of arrival on this earth. (Just there is a difference of beliefs, opinions, expressions and Scenarios)

Eventually, you get to learn many things. Scrolling, Walking, Eating, Laughing, people you know, people you don't know, and so on....

And the process of learning never stops. You go to school, college, and life goes on.

Every moment you live like you are the owner of that moment and it passes just like a blink.

Kartik, my partner in life, always mentions (As #Steve #Jobs included in his speech too) that you can connect the dots backward and not forward.  So I thought let's see what I can connect.

It is said, life teaches you a lot. But you only can learn. Sometimes you rebel, sometimes you laugh. Sometimes you Cry, Sometimes you fight, Sometimes you are very Positive, Sometimes terribly Negative and so many sometimes feelings. Every time you do something to it. knowingly unknowingly. One day you realize that this was not meant to be mine. That moment, the person, the situation(and you stop there). you gain many things and lose too. Few or many things don't even matter to you, cause you are that ignorant. But actually, a few things change you. You never know what that change will be. But it will. In the trip of life you meet people, people, and people. You will interact with more people and you will get to know people (Possibly or maybe never).

Anyways, seen, heard or experienced a lot, People like to judge other people. “They say” is the most important thing somehow. but these people are we, that they do not even realize. at one point you realize that you judged many and many judged you. Again what matters is, what you feel for yourself. if you are ready to be judged and disturbed then your life is screwed totally. I faced it a lot and when I realized how depressing it is, I stopped (just speak up or leave). I stopped getting tensed with the feeling that somebody may judge me. you know what it brings? It brings life to you. and you start taking your decisions.

One day you know the fact that your life is yours and others too have a life, then you understand one thing  “Carpe diem” means “Seize the day”. I fail in this always. But at least I give it a try now. And yes, to give a try to this you have to face many things before and come out of that. especially losses and disappointments.

Simple funda to understand this is very simple, that Good things don’t come easy. but at least I can make a path for it though. In the end, I am the only responsible person in my life. Not my job, not the people who made me feel bad and disappointed for many things. They were doing their jobs as per their nature and character. I must understand one thing that I must Take care of my health early. cause this will pay me. I can only work and give myself a secure life after a particular age if I live till then. But one condition, my work should remain my hobby so that I can enjoy it but no one should take advantage of it. I may not work for money but I must not settle for what not I meant for. I must value myself.  Like my parents, I may not be able to secure so many things. But surely dignity and selfless happiness will.

This dignity and selfless happiness will make every moment count. Cause I will be able to enjoy everything that I am doing and involved in. and after all making every moment count means a lot. You live in that, then why waste them. If you are able to make it count, you will surely be able to live and let others live. Isn’t it funny? You are not able to see the happiness of others, why? Because you are not happy. Simple !! Once you find peace and Happiness for self, the happiness of others becomes a reason to be happier. This is how one can live and let others live. 

Living your life with all your will makes you flexible with your goals. Most of the time you get hurt when you are unable to reach your goals. Why, because you are not ready to be flexible. But once you opt for life, you can.

My birthday is my favorite day. I say this and mean it. I always want to do something special with it. I don't remember the day I was born but I feel that each birthday should have some memory or other. This added value in the number is also adding value to my experiences and I am happy that I am alive. Who lives, that one can have stories to live after too.

A scientific calculation can be a definition for life, “For every action, there’s an equal opposite reaction” isn't it? This Birthday I am keeping in my mind for a lifetime. It is like tying a knot to remind myself that whatever I will do will come back to me. And whatever others will do it go back to them. So, I need not require to think about them but myself, Big Yes !! 

I may not connect the dots but I will love to live with all my rules and regulations of happiness. Birthday can become happy when I feel happy that I am born. I will change with every shock, loss, gain, age, and so on … but will keep in mind that Something Changes, Always Changes, and will keep on Changing. !! 

Social Edifice Built by RBIets (Nagpur Chapter)

Reserve Bank of India is not only a Central bank and Bankers Bank but is the best employer. It continuously encourages and supports the employees to foray in social, cultural, Sports and various other activities. Few illustrations will suffice the magnanimity of Reserve Bank of India.

Social Blood Bank

Late Mr. Dilip Gore, former employee of RBI – Died due to Esophagealvarices {disease of blood vessel – he was of rare blood group} the gravity of the situation prompted him to think about social blood bank.The Idea was shared by him with his RBI colleagues namely Mr. AvinashSangwai, Mr. Vilas Deshpande, Ms. ShobhaShembekar and Mrs. KalyaniDilip Gore, Mrs. Sandhya Vairagade.His Idea sowed the seed of having a blood bank which will serve to the society and cater there needs of blood at cost effective price.

The team of these six self-motivated people took the survey in Nagpur regarding requirement of blood and the supply from the available sources. To their surprise it was found that there was no such Social blood bank.Supply of blood was dismal to suffice the need of blood for the Hundreds of Thalassaemic, sickle cell children and patients from Central India. These were in need of continued safe and healthy blood but they were put to hardship due to paucity of it.

In May 1993, the first social blood bank in Nagpur was established. Numerous hurdles were there but Massive awareness regarding blood donations helped to reduce the fear of it and resulted to increase in voluntary blood donors. Today this central India’s state of the art blood bank proved to be a boon for the needy children andpatients of all sections of society.

Social Eye Bank

This Social Blood bank gained popularity and one day in 1994 the catastrophic news of bomb explosion in Chennai shook the society again. In this heart wrenching situation, sibling of one victim shared the pious act of eye donation by him which became encouragement to the concept of Social Eye Bank. This spurred the formation of first Social Eye bank in the year 1995. Later, a month long eye donation awareness program was carried out in Maharashtra where along with Nagpur other 22 locations started providing facility of grading of cornea and transplantation.All out efforts of RBItes Mr. AvinashSangwai, Mr. Ravi Sangwai, Mr. Ashok Karnik, Mr. Nilay Band, Dr. PrafulGoregaonkar, Mr. ShrinivasRisaldar, Mrs. Kalpana Ajay Joshi, Mrs. Madhavi Prakash Mandke, Mrs. Ghate, Late Mr. Prakash Mandke and Late. Mr. Ajay Joshi,resulted the awareness and reduction of misconception regarding eye donation. Pious act of Blood and Eye donation gave birth to the mission “JiteJiteRaktDaan, JaateJaate Netra Daan”

Bhonsala Military School

The then Maharashtra Government laid by Hon’ble CM Mr. Manohar Joshi, announced the policy of forming Military School at District level. This announcement gave the new dimension to the thought process of entering into the venture of military education followed by success of Blood and Eye bank.

The idea took concrete shape in the year 1997and First military school in Vidarbhabeen established. Since its inception students from Bihar, Orissa, Panjab, Rajasthan, Uttar Pradesh, Madhya Pradesh, Chhattisgarh, Vidarbha are getting benefited and serving nation through various fields along with defense. Major contribution to this project was from Ex RBIets Mr. AvinashSangwai and Mr. Vilas Deshpande. 

We are proud to say that Reserve Bank of India is still supporting to the social project by donating Waste to Daanparmita Charitable Trust run by retired RBIets. It is a proud moment for all of us that RBI is promoting

‘Beti Bachao Beti Padhao’

Salute to Indian armed forces.

Indian army is world’s third largest and its soldiers are considered best in high altitude battles. Armed Forces in our country consist of mainly four professional uniformed services: The Indian Army, Indian Air Force, Indian Navy, Indian coast guard that we all know. We call it defense forces. What these forces do for us? Do we recognize their role? Why the soldier is there without any relation of theirs which us? Many call it their duty. Many think that this is the option they had.

We are talking about well-trained, disciplined, experienced and motivated team of human resources, who are handpicked after being tested for their mental and physical abilities, went through years of rigorous training, have led large teams, and are battle hardened leaders who are forced to think on their feet, take decisions, give directions, in situations where the consequence of error is loss of life. This is encouraged by the Armed Force to stay young and agile.

Why should anyone go for a career full of hostility and risk that will eventually handover insufficient pension and retire you at the prime of your age, and all this for a society that does not even care to give you a fair chance to be a part of it? But think for some time. That deciding to join armed forces requires or can say needs a quality and essential requirements to join. Any xyz cannot just decides and joins the forces .The eligibility the courage and the will power all work together for an aspirant to become a part of Indian army forces. It is not the matter of gut but the matter of willingness to serve. It is a matter of desire and aspiration to join one of the most prestigious and respected careers in the country.

Doing stunts on road became a fashion now a day, up to a limit enjoyment is also okay to accept. Why not to think then to put all these effort to achieve the high level of the most dignified profession of the country. Youngsters can fulfill all their professional expectations by choosing a career of challenges, excitement, and adventure as an officer in defense. One more thing they must carry with them, a passion to serve to the nation and pride that they are serving to the Nation. It is a matter of personal satisfaction when you have decided to serve to the nation through joining the armed forces. By giving life to the edge of the risk, saving lives and making them better and secure offers a great satisfaction.

Leave all the facilities aside that people talk about but aren’t that worth, that you are giving your life to nation. You even don’t know that from the battlefield will I be able to go back home and stay will my family again or not. Don’t you think so? You are not my relative but you are of my nation you are a part of my nation and I am fighting for your safety must be nothing but a satisfaction to perform that duty. If you want excitement and challenges, then armed forces can meet all your professional expectations. Just one thing is required… respect for the country and for the self. Once you achieve it, you will never miss to Salute the Armed Forces of the Nation. Think about - A service of a total devotion, pure sacrifice, an honor and prestige.  

I learnt about Nagpur in 2019

Art and culture are the integral part of any civilization. It has been revered as medium of expression and entertainment. Since long in India, we have seen that it’s Art and culture which describes the different thread that weaves together the fabric of society and our nation. It is all about shared identity of our rich heritage. The history, the culture of India is not limited to one part. Every state and city of India is actually having this heritage as an asset. Many cities of India are now working on enhancing this with the various efforts and initiatives. With these initiatives the city not only adds to the culture and Art enrichment but also attracts tourism and interest of various groups from all areas. Cities like Bhopal, Mumbai, Jaipur, Pune, Delhi, Goa, etc. we can name with the events that attracts people from all the areas including tourists for the history and places of rejuvenation.

I am delighted to talk about it. In a capacity of project head here in Raisoni Group, I got an opportunity to research about this area in Nagpur. Rejuvenating Nagpur through art and culture. I thank Mr. Sunil Raisoni for giving me an opportunity to learn With two Sec 8 Companies, G H Raisoni Sports & Cultural Foundation and SGR Knowledge Foundation respectively, we are working on the aspect of socio-cultural enhancement in our society. It is not like we have not faced problems… there are so many, but to be very honest, when we talk about making our city a real smart, then we have to work on various aspects which include developments such as major technological innovations, new methods of conservation and preservation of heritage. We need to reevaluate our greatest soft power and bring forth new systems of highlighting art and culture. We can actually position Nagpur as a culturally equipped city. Where we need to work on… is to unleash the potential of our city in respect to the participation of all to make such initiatives successful. So that, the people organizing it can feel satisfied that they did something in the city. Organizer fails when public participation is nothing more than the ignorance towards what is being organized.

After our personal experience in Nagpur with our cultural and social programs, we can see that people are interested and they too want such initiatives. Orange City Literature festival explored the possibilities to be one of the cities in India, those which are known for the literature and such festivals. The participation of youth and the general public of all age groups showed that in Nagpur too this works and we too need it. In the coming years, the Orange City Literature Festival too will attract a huge number of art and culture lovers every year like Jaipur, the pink city. A simple concept is, the role of citizen engagement in creating city identity is vital.

Every city has a story to tell. Nagpur is now becoming one of it. I remember, when we were in schools and then colleges, we were unable to see such Art and cultural activities. Whereas, maybe we were unable to reach to such but now we can see the enhancing interest of citizen where we can now see the developing interest of social and other groups too which were somewhere disconnected before. It is very important to instill the interest and sense of pride in public space. Like every city, Nagpur has its unique quality in building its own identity. Now a day, we can witness so many classical vocal music programs, expert talks, various concept events and so much to cater the interest of different age groups and individuals. We must thank to all the initiators who took efforts to enhance the art and culture in the city. We can now see that promotion of art and cultural to create distinctive city identity has become a widespread practice for our Nagpur too.

We are very fortunate that we are in the center of the country and we can become a heart of it with such initiatives. We can witness the good happening in Nagpur and we are also lucky, that like other cities we need not require to travel a lot to reach somewhere. We are in a very comfortable and well-connected city. People are very supportive and we are fortunate that we have various groups and initiators who come up with so many good programs like music, dance, dramas, especially different language group that are organizing various festivals to cater to the members of society. Activities like Marathons Walkathons, Cyclothons, and Happy Street provides an open platform for health and rejuvenation and instills the positive vibe in participants. The responses we get, says that how much people want it. Major point arises is participation, why few get it and other do not? Point is, we need to generate that need in people to be a part of it.

In comparison to other cities, people in Nagpur are still craving less for the things they appreciate, they praise. Still the feeling of yes, this is a way of life and this can play a major role in rejuvenation is yet to raise its head. We have very good artists here; artists from all over India are interested to come here. Events like HCL Concerts, Khasdar Mahotsav and Orange City Literature Festival proves that. Nagpur is enriching with such initiatives and surely innovative public, private partnership will enhance it more. Action groups are getting formed to formulate and to drive such initiatives in art, literary and culture in the city. All media in Nagpur is providing vital support to take the city in main frame of such things. The feeling of, my city has that enriched culture and such awesome thing happens here, will itself change the perspective of looking at it. This will in due course of time will also support to creating a platform for local heritage centers, historical tours, community craft centers and will also provide jobs in local communities.

I am proud to be Nagpurian, will come only if I identify the positive and cultural ecosystem of my city. Nagpur can become a platform for showcasing Art and culture, surely in due course, policy related support will also be there and city branding will take place.