What Have you Learnt ? So... are we ready for #2016 ??!!

Finally 31st Dec. 2015 came.... since the start of this month everyone was asking for it. Anyhow, everybody was interested to know that what am I going to do for the celebration of New Year. But as usual , Mrunal is Mrunal, If I do as everyone does, will I be Mrunal?!! {This I am stating with style and pride here but since my childhood, this statement was usual for my mom and family ;-)}... It's very normal that when someone says No for anything to you, you only want to do that and it applies to all. Anyways it's altogether a separate topic.

Each year than gone have taught us something or the other lesson. We get number of experiences and  we learn from it. This is what expected too. Gone are those days when you hold your past with you and grab it like anything. whether it is good or bad we have to leave it. every passing moment tells us the same and we are doing so. So, if passing moment I mean going year is giving something good or bad, coming year also has ample of things in it to give us. So as 2015 did and 2016 is ready to do... I am sure we all have got or lost our many things in 2015 but are we ready for 2016. I have learned or one may say observed many things due to which I am sort of alert for those things now...This 2015 was mixed year for me too, I got my highest degree till date PhD notified in the month of May and awarded in August. I met maximum good and eminent personalities.  I met my school teachers, My principal from primary school after 20 years {I am a very bad kid that I was not able to make it again}, I wrote articles in News Paper Tarun Bharat, On my Blog I share many things, Got appreciation and lot of good things for which I am really thankful. Whereas, Some unexpected things (Man Ke Viparit) also took place which somewhere shook me. I have seen real faces of few people but anyhow I must say thanks to them also for giving me lessons, I lost my lovely Nani Padmaja aaji and My darling Talkative Parrot Tillu (The only creature who was in love with me, I always said so..), I observed the nature and postures of number of so called professionals. but with whatever I observed in past 365 or 364 days is really worth. I experienced and learned a lot. what I have learned is {Mentioning only 30 out of it :-)} :

1. Your Family is the only thing for which you are living, no material or spiritual entity or feeling can feel the emptiness of your family.
2. The more you run away from the things they grab you harder than before. Don't try to run from the things face it and close it.
3. The more you lie, more you get seperated from yourself.
4. Keeping things good or bad with you never benefit to you. speak up as early as you can.
5. Trust can make difference but first trust your instinct before trusting anybody cause you never know who is there at the bhes of saadhu.
6. Your words make difference, your words are your existence. It talks about your gun and Nirgun. These are the reasons to put in between the people or throw you away from the hearts and eyes of the people.
7. So called society or people may laugh at you at your achievements and prank on it also but it's upto you how you take it.
8. I know and Like CHESS.. but I avoid to play , it takes time.. I am a keen observer, I enjoy it as a spectator & Love to appreciate the Champions ...
9. We must Live, No one knows that whether the option ends in the next moment... or the other part is, an option extends till the end of choice of living.... Let's not scream... Let's not allow your Atma to roam around in Any case .....
10.  Do not look at how others look at you, No need to think about what they think about you, Never take a decision on how they will react.. Just remember one thing.. You are answerable to your parents, your loved ones and yourself.. Rest are just spectators and chit chatters... Rumors and wrong words come from only those who cannot have you or failed to keep hold on you and if you are of same gender then from those who cannot compete with you.
    Rules of life does not depend on others, it is up-to you how you want to accept it. {On your success and their requirement you will find the same mob with you}
    Think on it for sure you will find an answer for many things.
11. I may be harsh, I may Be Arrogant, I may seem rude cause I am a Girl, a Daughter, A Women, Wife, Sister, Friend, unending relations and I can fit in any role but somewhere I am still not me cause I live in a Humans Society.  
12. We must Live, No one knows that whether the option ends in the next moment... or the other part is, an option extends till the end of choice of living.... Let's not scream... Let's not allow your Atma to roam around in Any case
13. Even if You are Hurt, You Need not require anybody to console... if You know how to go back to you.
14. Respect time.. it has everything in it.. otherwise it may cause to a timing of life...
15. Never get so excited. . Even if you are talking to your best buddies.. no one know what limits other person has decoded for you.. just think before you interact with the people. .
16. God sent us as well with talk time.. we never know with how much validity.. use it wisely...
17. Respect time.. not only your's but other's also.. it ads value to both...
18. I did nothing till date.. I am not special and I don't want to be.. just one thing I wish is; at the end of the movie I should not ask myself.. What I did??... hope I will not..
19. There is always something New when you meet your old college friends. . Even after several years.. but you stay the same thats the real punch....
20. It is not necessary that each who says he cares for you does really so... necessary is how you be you, in any condition...
21. We travel... we change vehicles to reach destination... get in touch with co passengers and so on... but they all are their to pass, they are for time being... we cannot hold them with us... so the incidences in life are... or the life is...
22. Take a reference from past... don't reside there... make a present with it and preside ahead...
23. If you think something is poking you just face it... it the only way to clear your mind.. the more you run the more you gather the garbage to disturb yourself.  
24. Everytime letting go may not be a good thing... but.. sometimes it is really awesome. 
25. To calculate and mentain the Balance sheet of your Nature and Life, you need not require to become or hire Chartered Accountant :-)
26.  Thinking is always good but every good thing comes from thinking is not true. Think !!
27. When you are waiting for something then 1 minute will become an hour but if you stop waiting and concentrate on your work then whatever you were waiting for will appear in front of you and you will be surprised.......
28. I don't really know what am I going to get in the next moment.. but I know one thing that if I respect self and give respect to others at least through my normal chat in spite of their positions and levels, I will be generating good energy for me.
    Live in this moment with respect , next moments of dignity will be cared automatically.
29. You have to start... if you wait and seek for help... you will never complete it...
30. Either think or Worry, You can not do both at the same time....

 Everybody may also have their list too. Just look back into 2015 and think what will do in 2016. Will it be the same. If it is then please do not call it new year. And if it is new, then do something new. not big but something small. It will not make any big difference to the world but to you and the whom you are doing. 

Once Again, Every going year gives Learning and Experiences, So does 2015 Did.... 

Every coming year brings hope and New energies So, will 2016... It's up to We... Wish you and your family a Very fruitful 2016. Lots of love to 2015 with thanks. I am ready to welcome 2016.. Are you?

AANGAN... A project which connects the nostalgic dots.

After a long gap of 10 years we all college buddies met in our campus. This reunion was very special for us. No grudges, No Previous loads of any thing... just a feeling of meeting again. We met in the month of July 2015 and again the connection of all started. Whatapp group took all of us connected. Now we discuss many things on it.On one fine day being nostalgic we were talking about how were those days when we were kids. How were we?

Our parents were available to us, we were less technology driven but more active than today's smart kids......and so on... and then Neha shared her concept. on the same path as what she started in her Society. she said, "There is a thought came up in my mind which is now shaping up with the support of my Self Expression and Leadership Program offered by Landmark Worldwide, the thought has became a project now  and with the support of each and every individual it can grow globally."

This was the creation of background and we all were getting impatient that now what she will share. somewhere it was our thought that may be she is talking about chain marketing businesses popular these days. we took pranks on that and suddenly chat stopped on the word "AANGAN". This piece of area called Aangan has became a fairy tale concept for the kids of metro city and the era of nuclear family. With the project AANGAN, Neha came up with an idea of creating a club for small kids and their young parents wherein they will be playing games involving physical activities like kabaddi, kho kho, langdi, dog and the bone, etc. We all grown up playing these games and which we used to play with our siblings or friends or cousins.... So basically in groups.... Kids in this generation have a very few friends and majorly engaged in electronic media like gaming consoles mobiles, laptops, idiot box {TV you know...}etc. So this is the concept to give them the space to get grounded and get connected with their parents through these play sessions. Isn't it a great Idea to give this generation with what we grew up. It brings a connect of feelings between parents and kids. Neha brought this concept to her society.

And anyhow It is said That, "You look your Childhood at your ward", but Were you that tech savvy? or does your ward play the games you grown up playing with? 

Neha and her society, are planning to celebrate an AANGAN DAY on 26th January 2016 at their Society Runway Garden at City Thane west Mumbai . They have started promoting this concept through Facebook page https://m.facebook.com/Aangan-1605856703009405/, word of mouth and whatsapp groups. This initiative will bring a new life to the modern and sophisticated technocrat societies. In case of any support for  those who wish to, can contact Neha or go through the link of FB. So all the societies are welcome to celebrate AANGAN DAY this Republic Day on 26th January 2016. A revolution of resolution to bring real bachpan back. Looking for the grand connection of all the societies to bring our bachpan back.

So, by having play sessions on sat and sun for 2 hours a day Neha and her society started this in  Thane west with a pure wish to get it started in various societies all over Mumbai and then in India.

Then why not to Share your experiences, Photographs of your AANGAN in your society, put comments and suggestions to make this resolution worth experiencing.

Such practices are required to get connected with the kids and make them fit mentally and physically. Involvement of parents and other kids creates an enthusiasm of belonging, share and care. your 2 hours on every Saturday and Sunday can keep your ward close to you. It is try to show our bachchaparty how we grown up and it is an answer to the regular question of our kid,"What mom dad you people are so dull, you don't know what games and play are", are we or they?

#Katyar Kaljat Ghusli...

Thinking a lot since last few days, was not aware that what am I thinking. It happens most of the time with normal creatures. But anyways point is not what I was thinking point is I am posting on my blog after long gap. My friend said that being a regular reader of your blog we wish that At least you should post once a month. (Giving feeling to your friend that you write well even if they do not...)But why you do not post Yaar. My answer was the same ... I am thinking. What to tell them that what I think hardly make any difference to what.... leave it. But today I cannot stop myself by posting on it. Only reason is Katyar Kaljat Ghusli. Yes... I have seen this movie again and could not stop Mrunal to express her views.

Here I cannot call it a review of Katyar Kaljat Ghusli... cause it is not... you can watch this movie hundreds of times if you are Indian music lover. No matter whether you understand classical music or not but it will surely reach to you.

I remember I have seen this stageplay when my dadaji used to talk about it always. He was a sheer natyageet lover due to which we suffered a lot sometimes. Obviously, when you are not prepared or if your taste is different how you can expect such music since 5 in the morning... anyways it's a different point. It developed interest later. Ya Bhavnatil Geet Purane... was my favorite composition that time and whenever I used to sing that my dadaji looked at me with a proud kind... Like if he is saying that she is the one who will keep my legacy... ha ha jokes a part... but I have seen that play thrice, when he was alive we gifted him the CD of the play so it was understood that we must accompany him and listen his stories too. Later I have seen this play again when Rahul Deshpande took it to Nagpur. So it’s a background that could not stop myself to go for movie. Since childhood heard about Katyar Kaljaat Ghusli... so attitude somewhere was, let’s see now what will I get... 

Awesomeness experienced cannot take place anywhere in words... emotional attachment was obviously there.... but movie is not only a musical treat to the audience but a treasure to keep in. This movie is a masterstroke of Subodh Bhave. I wish to express my thanks to himself to give new generation a gift of this movie. They cannot meet Darvekar ji but at least people now know that this is what Marathi natyasampada  and the strength of Natyasangeet. This is what richness of Marathi theatre. Thank you Subodh Da. 

Rahul Deshpande ji, Shankar Mahadevan ji and Mahesh Kale ji rendered the compositions in a way that no music lover can stop himself to get tear in the eye. Indeed the combination of subodh and Shankar Ehsan Loy made the real magic by beautifully rallying the Katyar Kaljat Ghusli. The trio of SEL made the magic. I wish Vasantrao and Abhisheki bua.. Anyways where ever they are, they must be feeling happy, proud, satisfied and mesmerized.

Everything is just too awesome. 

I am feeling overwhelmed to see that people are responding , as I have seen the attitudes and replies of general public when you ask them to attend classical music event. This response to the movie clarifies that yes classical music and such experiments has place in the hearts of audience. 

Number of good quotes can be taken from the movie to implement in one's real life too. Have ample of things to say but.... not able to get proper words.. just huge thanks to Subodh Bhave, Shankar Ehsan Loy, Rahul Deshpande, Sachin Pilgaonkar, Mahesh Kale and entire cast and crew of Katyar Kaljat Ghusli ... each and every person who is associated to it... Thank You.

Yariyaan…

It was a wonderful day today. 

Frankly speaking due to one family reason I was not very happy since morning and was really hurt since last Friday as I lost my lovely granny Padmaja Aaji. very much stuck in the things we required to make at home. But it is said that “friends always break the doors when you want to stay alone and when you want to leave everything behind, friends will come to your way.” Directly or indirectly, today it was the same.

This has a background actually, before few days approximately on 24^th June 2016, my Best buddy Sourabh Malakar {He thinks that he has right to fight with me.. and hurts a lot sometimes..} formed a whatsapp group.{obviously I told him to do so, and he accepted it today} Let me first introduce you with Sourabh. Papu... Yes we called him paapu, my bangali sadi machchi buddy{The one with whom I had so much of fights, even today.. to whom I dared to abused, he only taught me how to.. upps not now...}…. Actually in my college group Sourabh is a first person who became my friend. It was 2000 when 11^th Std admissions became centralized. Our batch was the first. I was truly disheartened with the allotment I received. I was from Girls school and wanted to join a college where I can feel safe. Where my colony brothers were already studying. {It was a psychology at that time… leave it...} I was from core Marathi medium and was very uncomfortable with the allotment I got. I was scared actually… As I heard ample of good things about Hislop College at that time... {Now we are Happy that Hislop College got Heritage Tag, and it is a historic moment for the city and proud feeling for us… anyhow I was there for 5 years...} Anyways, I accepted to enter there. Let us cut the detail here… it has entirely different story. So, on the very first day of admission I saw Sourabh there… now let me clear one more thing, this fellow was not new to me… We were from same colony and was known to each other, sort of bachpan ke dost {still we are even after he became paraya dhan...but his name changed.. I call him Toshikapati now..}, as we were together in our 10^th classes as well, batches were different but we used to meet at our class monthly exams on centers. One more person from this class was there and he was Ashish Wankhede{The one who always said, Mrunal abey jara ladkiyon jaise treat kiya kar ... hey hey.. don't know why?}. But not known. So by seeing sourabh there I and my baba was like, yes koi to pehchan ka hai… Fortunately we were in the same section{Me, Ashish and sourabh actually have a memorable family bonding..}… and here from this place we got a group after around 7 months. {Again a different story is there between these months and a story behind creation of this group or can say gang}

Anyways, lets come on the topic of today… it always happen, once you start thinking about your old days you just start moving towards the details… hmmm, yes coming on topic.. Today I was not that happy but in the second half scene totally changed… we had a con call before, Neha, Sangeet, Sourabh and Me… and finally accepted to meet in the college itself... between had a discussion with Nazim {His, Achcha Hai.. Acha Hai.. style no one can forget} and Ashish.. Actually Ashish picked me and Nazim so, we three reached in the college first. Wow… it was awesome... after 10 long years we entered there. After 10 long years we were meeting. We went to our usual place {behind the stage where we actually spent our college days after our group was formed}. We were getting nostalgic there, all the memories just flashed. We were like speechless. Visited our classrooms when Sourabh joined us and took pics there. It was actually funny when after coming back out to the main door of the college we saw Sangeet{The one to whom called A K Hangal of our group...}there and we met our super juniors in stylo uniforms...{they gave a style to their uniforms as per their requirement} they are the cool new crop of this season… again we entered in to nostalgia, how were we?

The best part we found that we are not changed for each other, as we went to Neha’s place and met Neha {we were the girls from Marathi as a second language but became friends beyond it} and Janet{Cool and stylish, just chill kind... sensation of the group.. Janet marna mat it's true..} there we were totally the same as we were in college times. Somebody said really true, “even if you become super professional or have any height of your career, but you are the same to your old buddies once you get the click when you meet all together...”, in spite of all family issues and tensions we had an awesome day… lot many things left, lot many thing we missed including other members of our Group Manjusha, Nisha, Shrikant and Devleena…{and martina ki pavitra atma ;-)...} But next time we all will meet again and this time it will not take 10 years and that’s the promise we made. 

We had lot of fights and ample of misunderstanding but that were the best things which we had at that time.  We cannot go back and get those days again but whatever it was, it is really good.

Thank you buddies for the wonderful day… the same as it was since 2001 to 2005… Love you all… this is a bond; true Yariyaan.....!!

What is a big deal ??....

Today is last day of this month... 6 months of this year passed.. As per my office diary it is 181st day of this year and after this 184 days are left. It means now We have 6 months more with approximate 184 days. Obviously 3 days more than the past 6 months...{Feb. did this...} anyways.. one more thing i came to know about today is, today is the longest day of this year.. total 1 extra second.... can you imagine... he he.. daily we pass 86400 seconds today we have 1 more extra second.. what is a big deal ?? we usually think so.. isn't it... now my deal is simple...

If I am getting 1 extra second for this day then am I thankful to anyone or not... No I am not... Cause I am thinking.. What is a big deal... and it happens in my day to day life as well.. I am not thankful to anyone cause i feel that What is a big deal.. it is as obvious as every single moment... and here I fail... we usually decide many things on the first day of every year, then with passing days we totally forget what we have decided or what we have planned to do... I did the same... I have decided number of things on every auspicious occasions... that this is day on which I Promise myself.....bla bla bla... what next??

In past 6 months from the 1st day of jan 2015.. I also don't remember how may promises i did to Myself.. now what should I do?? Either I can stat remembering the promises or I can Make one more promise that Lets forget all and start a new beginning from this half year... and an unique last day of this half year...{It is like in Hindu Dharma we take lot of Mannat or Navas.. but somehow we fail to fulfill that after our wishes gets fulfilled, then we take a call of one single puja or tantra to come over all...}So, I took new oath on this unique day once again... Lets see for how long I can fulfill it....

Somehow I felt that I have gone through trauma and stress during these last few months and few past recent days it was bit higher,, but after analyzing few things I felt that I was so unfair with me.. World is celebrating 1 single extra second and I have been so unfair that I even didn't thanked for all the good things I have with me... I was running behind all the material things and I was the only person who was allowing others to hurt me.. then why I should blame others.. I face situations like doing good for others and then those others will hate you for no reason and they say this on your face.. Then why I should hate anybody or take the path of the same community {Bade log said ekdum perfect.. Neki kar dariya me daal.. But they forgot 1 thing Jiske liye neki kar rahe ho woh agar wrong no hai to uske thought ko hi dariya me daal de...}I have taken my step now its your turn.. A good last day, 1 more extra second, and 1 more extra moment to think on it... Have a great remaining year ahead....

Leave the past behind and tell the haters that I want to invest my time  for them who love me and to them love them back.. If you hate me then What is a big Deal ??... Carry on...

Why Me ?...

Ting.. Ting... nope, it is not like I have learned a new language but it was Mobile... Message on Whats app... I usually do not read lengthy messages.. I usually avoid it...

But somehow I never miss Interesting one.. or One can say that most of the time it depends on who sent the message... Anyways the message was interesting and that is what I wish to share.

We are always in the character of  Arjuna, and that we have discussed before. But one more important part of our style of living is, we never wish to accept the things or situations as they comes to us.. many times it happens that we get some bad experiences or the rude behavior of times and situations. Now only one reaction we use to give in this is "Why Me ?"........

Once my 62 year old industrialist friend told me, "Mrunal, I have seen number of problem and hurdles in my life, but after every Why Me... I decided and loudly challenged my life and said Try Me...", 
Actually I use to share some things with very few so, it was like I was just getting lesson for leaving bad things and living life when I left my job... I was totally broken when I got bitter experiences. Only one thought was pocking and disturbing me that I never did wrong or any harsh behavior with anybody.. I tried my level best... But why I get such experiences.. Why People treat you like a.... anyways.. I was hurt cause for me world was so good type.. If I am good to every one then everyone will be... anyways it was my thought..... somehow it is still like that but then also uncle gave a very good advise at that time. 

I came to know that whatever happens to you, it happens for something meaningful..

Life always give you happiness if you really want to have... a faith, trust and confidence is what is always required.

Anyways let me share the message here which I have received on my whatsapp... I must say thanks to Akash, that he sent that to me... Thank you Akash.. I thought to share it with all... and therefore all this to share..

Anyways the story goes like this..

After the Kurukshetra war, Arjuna and Krishna were talking on how how their life was till then.

Arjuna says to Krishna: we followed Dharma our whole life and what did you give us? 14 years of difficulty and War all our life. Duryodana got to enjoy all his life despite he was arrogant and never followed Dharma.

Krishna to Arjuna: It's because man never understand my way of thinking.

Arjuna: what's your way?!! 

Krishna takes Arjuna to a village both dressed like poor brahmins. 

They went to the richest man in the village and asked for shelter that day as it was late and they said they would leave the next day. 

The rich man was so arrogant but still asked them to stay along with cows in the other building.

Arjuna was angry but didn't say a word. 

The next day,Krishna told to rich man " repair the building the cows are in. 

Its too week and might fall anyday now. 

The rich man checked the building and found the same. 

He thanked Krishna and got workers to make it strong that it wont shake a bit for next 100 years.

Krishna then took him to a poor man's hut in that village and asked for shelter that day. 

He not only gave his own hut but also brought some fruits for them that night.

His only means of living was a cow.

Arjuna was happy about the hospitality. 

The next day when everyone were sleeping, Krishna took Arjuna to that cow and touched it with his hands. 

The cow died the next second.

Arjuna and Krishna went back to the palace. 

Arjuna then said to Krishna "This is your way of thinking. ??

Helping that rich man who was arrogant and mean but killing the only means of living of that poor man who was so kind and good"

Krishna replied with a smile :
Its what I said. You never know my ways.
That building I asked that rich man to renovate had hidden treasure from a king. 

If it had fallen, he would have got the treasure which lasts for next hundred years.

Now it stays under the building for the same time.

The fate was that a death must occur in that poor mans life. 

There are just him,his wife, his only son and a cow. I decided to take his cow in place of his family.

Arjuna now got to know the mysterious ways in which god thinks and decided never again to question what he gets in his life...

Now again My thought went on the same to be and not to be form and asked myself that We also have ample of Questions Are we Different from the Character of Arjuna ?? if not then yes I will get my Krishna for sure whenever I require {form may be anything} but I have to keep faith on him, that he has better plans for me so, I must think on what plans he might have when I ask "Why Me??" may be I will also say "Try Me"...

To be or Not To be...

Last night my friend gave me a call and asked, “Since last so many days you have not updated your blog, I was waiting that if you can put some stories or incidence”. Yeah, true since so long was not able to write anything. Not because I cannot read or write now a days or I got fed up of doing it. Nope, it’s nothing like that. When a person writes or pen down any thought of that person on a piece of paper he usually wish to be free from all unnecessary thoughts. It is not because he is a writer or philosopher but just because to be true to his pen. Anyways let’s not enter in to philosophy part. I was actually dealing with the so many questions due to which I was unable to give answer to myself. My situation was like Hamlet. !! Sorry I am not, but the main phrase I have gone through was “to be or not to be”. 

Now what does this mean? It is an usual form of life that everyone faces. No one in this world is untouched from this phenomenon.  It is not only me but every one of us enters in the role of Hamlet in one or the other phrase of life. Here we enter in to the difficult problem where we become unable to decide to be or not to be. Why to go so long? We have a superb example in our puranas as well. Don’t you remember Arjuna {Parth} of Mahabharata, we call reason for the creation of Bhagvat Geeta! He was the one who fell into this situation of To be or Not to be, and here we are equipped with the holy answer “Geeta” for all our problems from management to strategy, from life to corporate and what not. So, the question and state of Hamlet of Arjuna evoke Lord Shrikrishna to recite Geeta to Arjuna. Here Arjuna is a representative of all of us. Cause we are the only person who always require answer for something or other. But , we all will get our personalized Krishna is not necessary. 

How strange it is, a simple mark “?” has so much to stop …. Isn’t it ? but a symbol which has no separate identity, has so much of strength to change the world and minds of a human being and their identities. But somehow it is important that we must fell in to this situation. It is said, “It is ok if do not have any answer but it is not ok if do not have any question, this will lead to the end of the story ”. If you are asking questions it means you are alive and have strength in your existence. These questions may be anything and related to anybody but will support to your livelihood. Once we enter in to the role of the Arjuna we will surely get our Krishna {Krishna can be any person, situation, location, animal or anything}. Situation is the same just an era is changed. So what?!!

Wrong Person always Teach a Right Lesson of Life...

This is the month of March, we celebrated International women's day. We did salute to all the woman strength that took the nation pride and did great in their lives. Whereas, some jokes and advertisement expressed that each day is a women's day. Some were funny and some were teasing. Anyhow, Day started with a small thought, Is there anything special that a girl wants from her life??. How many of us can clearly answer this?  What happens when she has some expectations from her life ? Do we have any precise explanation?  We see ample of advertisements talk shows, movies and daily soaps and many more based on the life of a girl. Many episodic events are there due which we have seen agitations and protest for the rights of a girl or a women. Did it really work? Enough of all these questions, just one simple query are the girls are really getting what they want or the rights they have.

I visit number of places whenever I get a chance to visit it. I meet number of people. Some of them are really genuine but yes how can we guess in one or two meetings. Anyways it is a different topic. I have many friends as I am from Girls school still I am in touch with maximum of my school friends. Many of them shared various things with me; not only they but the other contacts also shared many things. Everyone has a different struggle in her life; few are truly ok with whatever they are getting in their lives. But every story has something to pinch. Why? When we say everything is neutralizing in society and we are getting all the similar rights and facilities then what is the difference, where is the gap?

I met one of my friends last evening. We discussed various things and during our discussion she told me about one of our common friend. She was with us in our tuition classes when we were in 10th Standard. It was really shocking to know that she lost her mental balance and is fighting with number of disorders. Just to know about her I ask my friend please do share if you have any idea about what had happened to her. This girl was very talented during our schooling and was always in competition with us for scoring marks in various subjects. By the time I came to know that this girl fell deeply in love with the guy and they were very serious about their relationship. Don't know about the guy but this girl was really thinking to take this to the other concrete level. But as usual the guy took a step back and started avoiding her. He was literally interested in all kind of relationships but not a concrete commitment, he was thinking about his parents, family society and so on... I guess there is no need to explain this further. Finally this silly girl lost all her conscious and identity. How one can hurt anybody like this? Don't they think of any ethics or morals while doing such injustice? 

I have seen people talking about respecting their mother a lot and are ready to die for her. Does these people really respect a girl or her emotions too.. sorry but I have doubt. My friend is not even able o identify us now. I just thought one thing, and it was very scary.. What if such thing happens to me.. Will I be able to forgive a person who will play with my emotions or will I be able to forgive myself to deal with such a wrong decision or a person. My goodness it is really tough to give a thought on it but have seen various such cases and what to say on it? Only they may express it better those who faced it ?

We see people stand in front of Devi Maa with a tears of respect and emotion in their eyes. But we have even seen that how people treat their wives, daughters or daughter in laws etc.. in real life. Why this then? Honestly speaking such people should not even eligible to stand out of the temples of Devi Maa or Mother merry… sorry getting too harsh but what to do its really… anyways..Why a widow cannot smile and laugh? Why people pin point her when she start living her life? There are many things many stories to share and discuss.

If society is changed, then why only girls are facing such things? I accept that there are few girls who are also real culprits. but are these girls are parameters to treat other. We have seen number of Rape cases and harassment cases in news papers and channels but who is the main culprit then? Obviously the answer will be a girl, her cloths, her style of walking, talking, her social life, and her footprints on social networks etc etc... Isn’t it?? Oh sorry it means the main problem is a girl. Why to curse anybody else then. If she loves someone and faces dishonesty, abusing words, harsh behavior or anything else then yes she is the culprit. If she marries someone and give her whole and soul to the guy and his family and then if she faces harassment or any other problem even sometimes covered with high profiled life and layers of fake respect and happiness etc, she is the problem she is a culprit. 

So only a female is a culprit, whether she is a little girl or a grown up lady, a women. Even after all this, Just a small hope that someday or other this will defiantly change. And only a female a girl will change it. She can face number of wrong things in her life but then also she can stand for her. She will face ample of wrong people in her life but she will get right lessons from them. She will survive with a broken heart sometime but she is capable to break all emotional barriers. Let her start living she will leave everything behind. Let her deal with wrong persons and it is said, "Wrong Person always Teach a Right Lesson of Life"