The End of 2024: A Year Wasted or Lessons Gained?

A week away from the end of 2024, with Christmas celebrations all over, I sit reflecting on the year gone by. May be being bit early to do this but There’s a strange sense of both disappointment and acceptance. It’s tempting to label 2024 as a year wasted—a year where the days, weeks, and months slipped through my fingers, leaving little to show for it. But as I look back, I realize that this feeling is not new. A quick glance at the years past reveals a pattern. The graph of my life, if drawn, would have few upward spikes. Yet, life’s worth isn’t always measured in grand achievements.

And yet, here I am, alive. Being alive means there’s still so much to learn. This year, I saw the true faces of people, relationships, and friendships. Though the truth stung, I’m grateful for the clarity it brought. These experiences are shaping me into someone more practical, someone who values actions over illusions, and someone who can adapt to life’s realities.

One key lesson from this year is the importance of spending on myself rather than obsessing over saving for some elusive future. Life has a funny way of demanding your savings when you least expect it—not for yourself, but for others. And when that moment comes, it’s not the giving that hurts but the regret of not having done more for yourself while you had the chance.

Another realization is the paradox of trust. Trust nobody and trust all—it’s the real shot. Balancing between skepticism and openness is a tricky dance, but both extremes hold invaluable lessons. Reflecting on my interactions, I see how trust and caution shaped my understanding of people and their motives.

At times, a part of me felt crushed under the weight of the moment, succumbing to the chaos. Yet, another part of me stood tall, thankful for the learning each challenge brought—be it personal or professional. These dualities have taught me to navigate life’s unpredictable waters with resilience and acceptance.

I’ve also come to appreciate the ebb and flow of relationships. People enter our lives and leave, their exits as inevitable as their arrivals. Only a precious few stay—not because of shared ethics, loyalty, or agendas, but simply because they belong. Their presence needs no justification, and that’s what makes it profound.

Mentors, too, have taken on a deeper meaning this year. They aren’t always those who guide us with wisdom or lead us to victories. True mentors are those who remind us to look back, pick up the pieces, and start again. Their lessons are often brutal, teaching us to rise after repeated falls and showing us that failure is not an end but a beginning.

At 40, standing here at the end of 2024, I feel like I’ve wasted yet another year. But have I truly? This so-called "wasted" year taught me lessons that no achievement could have. Death is the only certainty, so humility is not optional—it’s essential. Dignity, however, is a different kind of battle. It demands constant vigilance, especially when the world seems ready to declare your story over.

Above all, I’ve learned enough to know that sometimes, it’s better to ignore a person than to confront them just to prove I’m right. This isn’t about weakness; it’s about choosing peace over needless conflict and preserving energy for what truly matters.

And since no one is going to interview me on their podcast, I figured I’d do it myself and reflect right here. After all, self-awareness deserves its own stage, even if it’s just my own words on a page.

So here I am, still standing, still trying, still learning. For every day, week, and month that felt wasted, I gained something intangible—a piece of wisdom, a sliver of courage, or simply the resolve to keep going.

And that’s enough for me, for now.

Two Journeys, One Lesson: Sachin and Kambli's Tale of Talent and Choices

The latest footage that has mostly caught the attention of most cricket lovers across all ages is the one depicting Sachin Tendulkar sharing stage with his comrade Vinod Kambli. Remember, these two childhood buddies, who were trained by the great Ramakant Achrekar, were anticipated to be the future stars of Indian Cricket and their journey started with a lot of hopes attached to them. Their names were linked with the likes of younger sportsmen who were expected to change the game. Many times, Coach Achrekar was quoted saying that Kambli was more gifted than Sachin. However, as the time passed, things turned out to be completely different, and they have taught all of us a fundamental lesson, that yes, talent may get you in the game but it is discipline, hard work, and concentration that helps you reach your goal.

In the viral clip, the bond between Sachin and Kambli elicits feelings of nostalgia as they come from the same background. However, this is where their similarities end. Sachin has gone on to earn greatness in the game of cricket as a true legend which clearly demonstrates his hard work. Kambli’s relationship with cricket reminds one of a shooting star as he was a batsman to behold but now he is an incompletely filled sphere which hurts the sight. It was a reunion with the best of feelings on both ends; Sachin confidently composed and Kambli, who was in an emotional state seemed to be longing for the times when they both were youngsters. It is a narrative about two stars who started together but ended quite differently and perhaps learnt valuable life lessons.

Theirs is not just a love for cricket; theirs is a great story. Everyone saw Vinod Kambli was blessed with raw talent. He was exciting, aggressive, and brightly entertaining. His life, however, met the ruins of distractions, loss of concentration, and the trouble of trafficking in fame. In striking contrast, Sachin Tendulkar was able to couple his talent with striking discipline, hard work, and soundness. The presence of such overwhelming fame and the title of ‘God of Cricket’ did not daunt him. This dissimilarity points out a very important fact: having a talent is not sufficient. You may use it as a head start but it is hard work which will take you over the line. It is not fame, it is remaining humble, dutiful, and committed to one’s purpose that will help one achieve sustainable success.

The viral post capturing the moment where they both took to the same stage got others feeling remorse as much as fans (Social media can explain it better). Many felt it brought back instructive memories urging them to know the unpredictability of life, and how powerful choices we make can be. To be fair, while Sachin walked the path of perfection, Kambli gives away the other side of success, that it takes an infinite time to create opportunities but only a push to lose them. The reunion also stressed the strong connection the two friends still share.

In spite of the different stories about their lives, we could feel the equality and fraternity that was in them. It was an emotional occasion and for the fans who watched how they dominated the game as children, it must have been a special moment.

There is a famous quote that says, “Be a tough worker when you’re still young so you do not need to regret in your old age.” Sachin is a living example of this saying. His journey can be characterized not just by talent but by self-sacrifice, hard work and humility. Kambli, however, was also flashy at times. He was young and only batted brilliantly with a few record Katz and Sachin. But his career lacked the focus and dedication to be the very best for a long time.

The tale of Sachin and Kambli’s life experience has something important to share with people in every walk of life. When you waste time in distractions that is losing time which you will never be able to recover. It is time to use it in an effective manner to shape a time which can be bearable for your future. It’s a great thing to be blessed with talent, however, being able to learn and develop skills that build upon this talent is what holds value. Greatness may be achieved and fame may be attained, their afterglow may not last too long, what endures is the humility hard work brings to an individual. It is not only about your potential, but it is also the things and the kinds of habits you construct.

This also honored Ramakant Achrekar, the man who was the source of many sacrifices for both these stars- hard work and discipline. The importance of what Sachin achieved hinged on Achrekar’s teachings. In the case of Kambli, it’s a wait about evils of being not only mentored but not having the temerity to follow the mentorship. Though both Sachin and Kambli share a solid bond, their stories irrespective of the similarities exhibit the adage ‘the choice is the catalyst. Sachin made the choice of being disciplined, having the ability to persevere and maintaining his focus which eventually helped him achieve maximum limits. Kambli- His choices I suppose had potential but were always marred by chances.

It’s a universal truth that the decisions we make today shape our tomorrow (We all find some or the other example in our own lives too). Talent can only take us so far; it’s the effort and commitment we put in that define our destiny. The viral video of Sachin and Kambli sharing a stage reminded the world about a story of triumph and reflection, of discipline versus distraction, and of what it takes to achieve greatness.

Let’s draw inspiration from Sachin’s life and learn from Kambli’s journey. Strive to be disciplined, hardworking, and focused. Remember, success is not just about being gifted but about being relentless, consistent, and unstoppable. In the end, their story teaches us that life rewards those who value their time, respect their mentors, and never stop working toward their goals. Be the Sachin of your story— Disciplined, Non Alcoholic, Dedicated, Devoted, Humble, and Legendary.

Dr. Bibek Debroy : The Final Note

As I read Anu Lall's heartfelt tribute to Dr. Bibek Debroy, I was deeply moved by the profound insights shared and the reverence with which he was remembered. In her closing lines, Anu beautifully captured the sentiment of a world that has lost a luminary: "Farewell, Bibek Sir. Please come back to complete the Purana Project, or maybe not. Perhaps you have already ventured to a better world. You will be remembered, always, with reverence and gratitude. Om Shanti." These words encapsulate the essence of Dr. Debroy's life—his intellectual legacy, his humility, and the impact he had on those who encountered his work.

Dr. Bibek Debroy, known for his extraordinary research interest and intellectual brilliance, was a true beacon in the field of economics, literature, and history. His immense body of work, which spanned across more than 60,000 published pages, was a testament to his tireless dedication to knowledge and his commitment to making complex subjects accessible to the masses. He was not just a scholar but a passionate writer who delved into diverse subjects, including the history of the fountain pen, the Indian Railways, and, most notably, the ancient Indian epics—the Ramayana and Mahabharata. His translations and commentaries, such as the Markandeya Purana, revealed his deep reverence for India's rich cultural and literary heritage.

Throughout his illustrious career, Dr. Debroy encouraged new ideas and nurtured fresh talent, always urging young writers and thinkers to challenge conventional boundaries and explore new avenues of knowledge. His ability to write across such varied fields—economics, history, culture, and literature—demonstrated not only his vast intellect but also his incredible versatility as a writer and thinker. His works have inspired countless readers and scholars alike, and he has left an indelible mark on the intellectual landscape of India.

His passing on November 1 was a profound loss to the academic world and beyond. I personally had the honor of reading Dr. Debroy’s works especially “The Bhagavad Gita For Millennials” and finding great inspiration in his writing... I had always hoped that Dr. Debroy would attend our Orange City Literature Festival (OCLF), as I believed his insights and intellectual presence would greatly enrich the event. It was a dream to have him share his knowledge with our audience, to hear him speak about his work and his views on literature, history, and the evolving world we live in.

Though that dream has not come to fruition, his legacy continues to inspire. As I reflect on his obituary, written by him just days before his passing, I am struck by his humility and foresight. He writes, “There is a world outside that exists. What if I am not there?” These words, profound in their simplicity, echo a deep understanding of the impermanence of life, yet a recognition that one’s ideas and work can live on long after their time. Dr. Debroy seemed to know that his work, especially the unfinished Purana Project, would remain incomplete in his lifetime, but that did not diminish its value. In his words, “I will be reborn. But I hope not for this,” there is a sense of acceptance of the unfinished nature of life, of the inevitability of death, and yet, a belief in the continuity of intellectual legacy.

Dr. Debroy’s reflections on mortality and his recognition of the fragility of life were particularly poignant in his final days. In one of his most personal statements, he described the narrowing of his world during his hospitalization: “My external world is restricted to a thin sliver of a window. It is restricted to counting the IV drops as they pass through the cannula. Drip, drip, drip.” These lines, stark in their honesty, reminded us all of the human fragility we all face, no matter how grand our achievements or how vast our intellectual contributions.

As Dr. Debroy himself stated in his obituary, “Perhaps only 2-3 people will make it to the final moment. That’s it!” Yet, despite the inevitability of death, his intellectual contributions will live on, inspiring generations of thinkers, writers, and scholars.

Dr. Bibek Debroy will be remembered not just for the breadth of his scholarship, but also for the quality of his work and the kindness with which he shared his knowledge. His legacy is one of humility, intellectual curiosity, and a deep love for his country’s history and culture. As we bid farewell to this great scholar, we are reminded of the lasting impact he has made on all of us, and the continued relevance of his work.

May his soul find peace, and may his words continue to guide us toward a deeper understanding of life, death, and the quiet impact each one of us leaves behind.

 (Note: Help of AI technology is taken in refining the final draft)

 

Knowing When to Argue

As I read Ranveer Allahbadia 's post on LinkedIn, it made me think deeply about other perspectives surrounding this thought—perhaps because of my recent encounter with a chain of arguments. His message on the importance of connection over the need to be right truly resonated, but my own experiences have shown me that while connection is vital, there are moments when arguing becomes necessary. These moments aren’t driven by ego, but by something deeper—whether it’s defending values, setting boundaries, or seeking growth. This led me to explore when and why we might choose to argue, even as we strive to maintain meaningful relationships.

Ranveer Allahbadia ’s post on LinkedIn strikes a chord with anyone who has ever been caught up in the endless cycle of arguments and the need to be right. His message is simple yet profound: relationships matter more than being right. His words gently remind us that the arguments we fight so hard to win will fade away, but the feelings and connections we create with others remain.

However, as I reflect on his message, I believe there’s another layer to consider. While it’s true that relationships and connection should always be at the forefront of our minds, there are moments when standing your ground is essential. Sometimes, we must argue, not out of ego or pride, but out of a deeper need to uphold our values, protect our boundaries, or seek justice.

Here's a perspective on when it's okay to argue, while still holding on to the essence of Allahbadia’s message:

1. Argue When Your Values Are at Stake

It’s one thing to argue over who left the dishes out or whose idea is better for the weekend plans, but it’s another thing entirely when the conversation touches on core values. There will be times in life when we must speak up—when silence would mean going against our principles or supporting something we know is wrong. In these moments, it’s not about ego, but about integrity. Standing up for what’s right, especially in situations involving injustice or harm, requires courage, and sometimes, arguments are part of that fight.

Key Insight: Argue when it matters to your conscience. But even then, do it respectfully, ensuring that you’re defending principles, not attacking people.

2. Argue When It’s About Setting Boundaries

Healthy relationships aren’t just about love and connection; they’re also about boundaries. If you’re in a situation where someone repeatedly oversteps those boundaries, it’s important to have those tough conversations, even if they turn into disagreements. Boundaries protect both sides in a relationship, creating mutual respect. The key is to ensure that the argument remains constructive rather than destructive.

Key Insight: Setting boundaries isn’t about winning—it’s about ensuring mutual respect and protecting your emotional well-being.

3. Argue When It Leads to Growth

There are times when disagreements are the gateway to personal or collective growth. Challenging someone’s ideas or being challenged in return helps us think critically, opens our minds to new perspectives, and deepens our understanding of complex issues. Constructive arguments can push us to reconsider old patterns, break free from limiting beliefs, and open up opportunities for learning.

Key Insight: Engage in arguments that encourage growth, not to prove superiority but to explore new dimensions of thought and possibility.

4. Argue to Strengthen, Not Weaken, Relationships

Arguments, when handled with care, can actually strengthen relationships. They provide opportunities to clear misunderstandings, express hidden frustrations, and come to a deeper understanding of each other’s needs. The way we argue is important—are we arguing to wound, or are we arguing to heal? If the intent is to hurt or to belittle, then the argument becomes destructive. But if the intent is to understand and bridge gaps, then arguments can be powerful tools for connection.

Key Insight: When you find yourself in a disagreement, ask yourself, “Am I trying to win, or am I trying to connect?”

Honestly, Ranveer’s post beautifully captures the essence of what truly matters in life—the people we love, the connections we foster, and the kindness we leave behind. But life is filled with moments when we need to speak up, stand our ground, and sometimes, yes, argue. The key is finding the balance. We should choose our battles wisely, remembering that while being right may feel good in the moment, what lasts is the way we make others feel.

In the end, it’s not about avoiding every argument, but about choosing the ones that matter. The ones where speaking up strengthens relationships, protects our values, or leads to mutual growth. And even in those moments, we must argue with kindness, respect, and a genuine desire to connect, not to dominate.

So, yes, give your loved ones a call. Reach out with love. But when the need arises to argue, do so with intention, with the goal of deepening the bond, not breaking it. Because as long after the arguments fade, what remains is the love, the kindness, and the connection we’ve built.

Confidence without Humility is Merely Arrogance in Disguise

Confidence is something we all admire. We’re drawn to people who believe in themselves, who speak with assurance, and who lead with conviction. But what happens when that confidence isn’t balanced with humility? It stops being inspiring and becomes something else entirely—arrogance, hidden behind the mask of self-assurance.

Let me share a story that illustrates this perfectly. Anshul and Arya worked at the same company. Both were extremely talented, hardworking, and known for getting results. But there was a key difference between them, and it wasn’t just in how they did their jobs—it was in how they carried themselves.

Anshul had a lot of confidence, which on the surface seemed like a good thing. He was decisive, quick to take charge, and never hesitated to give his opinion. But there was a downside to his approach. Anshul’s confidence often made him overly critical. He believed so much in his own abilities that he started dismissing the experience and roles of others. During team meetings, he would shoot down ideas without really listening, often saying things that will hurt the confidence or feeling of belongingness to the company of other person. His words and actions, intended to assert his confidence, left his colleagues feeling small and humiliated.

Over time, people started avoiding discussions with him. His confidence no longer inspired the team; it intimidated them. Anshul’s self-belief became a barrier, preventing him from seeing the value in his team’s contributions. His colleagues respected his knowledge but felt undervalued and disrespected with him.

Arya, on the other hand, was just as confident in her work, but she coupled her confidence with humility. She believed in her skills, but she also trusted in the abilities of those around her. Arya knew that no one has all the answers, so she actively sought out input from her team. Even when she disagreed with someone’s suggestion, she did it with respect, acknowledging their experience and role before explaining her viewpoint. Arya’s leadership style made her team feel empowered and valued. They knew they could share their ideas without being belittled. Over time, her team thrived under her balanced leadership.

As the years passed, Arya continued to rise in her career, not just because she was confident, but because she respected others’ experiences. Anshul, though still successful in his own right, found himself isolated. His confidence had turned into arrogance, and in doing so, he had pushed people away.

So don’t ypu think, Anshul’s story shows us just how important humility is in everything we do. Confidence is necessary for success. It gives us the strength to take risks, push boundaries, and lead. But without humility, confidence can easily become toxic. It can turn into arrogance, making us believe we’re better than others, that we don’t need to listen or learn from anyone else.

Humility, on the other hand, keeps us grounded. It reminds us that no matter how skilled or knowledgeable we are, there’s always more to learn. Humility opens us up to the experiences of others and teaches us the value of listening. It’s not about making ourselves small; it’s about acknowledging that everyone has something valuable to contribute.

Arrogance often disguises itself as confidence, but it does far more harm than good. Arrogance shuts doors, while humility opens them. It prevents us from growing, from learning, and from building meaningful relationships.

Anshul’s arrogance didn’t just hurt him—it hurt those around him. His need to always be right, to criticize without considering the roles and experiences of others, damaged the morale of people around him. When confidence crosses into arrogance, it becomes a force that destroys rather than builds.

We Observe, see or experience such thing often, Don’t we?. In life, work, and relationships, we need both confidence and humility. Confidence helps us step forward with strength, while humility keeps us open to learning from those around us. The most successful people are not the ones who bulldoze their way through situations but those who lead with confidence while lifting others up.

The next time you feel proud of your accomplishments, remember that humility is what will sustain your success. Be confident in your abilities, but never lose sight of the experiences and knowledge that others bring to the table. Confidence may take you far, but humility is what will keep you connected, respected, and truly successful.

Let me leave you with a thought, confidence might help you achieve great things, but without humility, those achievements lose their depth and meaning. True strength lies not just in what we know, but in how we value and respect the knowledge of others.

Seeing Through the Shadows: Unmasking the Subtle Power of Gaslighting

Recently, I had the opportunity to listen to the audiobook of "Gaslight" by Patrick Hamilton while following along on Kindle. This suggestion came from Kartik, after a heated argument where I accused him of gaslighting me. I had shared a Facebook post with him about the signs of gaslighting, which led him to recommend this book, saying it would give me a deeper understanding of what gaslighting truly means. At first, I didn’t know much about the term, but after diving into the story, I realized how pervasive and damaging this form of manipulation can be.

Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation where one person makes another person doubt their own perception of reality. It involves lying, denying, contradicting, and manipulating to such an extent that the victim starts questioning their own memory, sanity, and understanding of events. The name “gaslighting” comes from this very story by Hamilton, where the protagonist, Bella, is systematically made to believe she is going insane by her husband, Mr. Manningham.

In the book, Mr. Manningham uses subtle tactics to undermine Bella’s sense of reality. He constantly dims the gaslights in their home and then denies doing so, making Bella doubt her senses. This is a classic example of gaslighting—making someone doubt what they clearly see and hear. Mr. Manningham also lies blatantly, denying conversations and events that Bella knows happened. This form of psychological abuse is designed to make her feel confused and dependent on him for clarity, which erodes her self-esteem and self-trust over time.

One of the most chilling aspects of the book is how Mr. Manningham’s actions contradict his words. He often claims to care for Bella, but his actions are controlling and manipulative. He isolates her from others and manipulates the people around them, like the servants, to view Bella as unstable. This creates an environment where Bella feels entirely alone, reinforcing the gaslighter’s narrative over her own understanding of reality.

While reading the book, I realized that in today's world, gaslighting can be even more insidious. Unlike Bella, who was physically isolated, people today often appear to be surrounded by social connections, both online and offline. They seem involved in many activities and relationships, which gives an illusion of being in a supportive environment. However, a skilled gaslighter can still manipulate within this setting. They can play their game subtly, sowing seeds of doubt and confusion while maintaining a façade of concern and support. The victim might feel surrounded by people but still experience a deep sense of loneliness and confusion because the gaslighter makes them question their own reality, often in front of others, making it seem like they're the problem.

This cycle was evident throughout "Gaslight." Mr. Manningham’s manipulation was methodical, making Bella feel like she was descending step-by-step into darkness, losing her grip on reality. It was heartbreaking to see Bella’s self-esteem crumble as she began to believe that maybe she really was losing her mind. Every time she tried to defend her reality, Mr. Manningham would twist her words or deny the truth, making her seem even more unstable.

What struck me most about this book is how well it illustrates the subtle but powerful ways gaslighting can take hold. It’s not always about outright aggression or violence; sometimes, the most dangerous forms of control are those that make you question your own thoughts and feelings. Hamilton’s story serves as a chilling reminder of how manipulation can be so deeply ingrained in relationships and how important it is to trust our instincts and perceptions.

Reading "Gaslight" was a powerful experience for me. It opened my eyes to the insidious nature of gaslighting and made me more aware of the importance of trusting myself. If someone ever makes you feel like you’re constantly defending your reality or questioning your sanity, it’s crucial to recognize these signs and seek support.

Kartik's recommendation turned out to be more than just a reading suggestion; it was a lesson in understanding the depths of psychological manipulation. "Gaslight" is more than a suspenseful narrative; it’s a story about the dark side of human behavior and the importance of maintaining one's sense of reality in the face of manipulation. For anyone who wants to understand the complexities of psychological abuse, this book is a must-read. It’s a stark reminder to trust ourselves and to be vigilant about the subtle ways in which our perceptions can be shaped by others. In today's connected yet often isolating world, it’s more important than ever to stand firm in our own truth and be cautious of those who try to undermine it, even under the guise of being close to us.

Celebrating Our Success: TEDxCivilLines Women Talks Go Global!

When I first began planning TEDxCivilLines Women in the first edition itself 2 years before, I knew it would be a challenge to find speakers who truly embodied the spirit of the event—those with compelling stories of self-discovery, resilience, and empowerment.

This year I was quit sure what I need to do and how we can get the nest voices of the city on board. I remember countless discussions with Manjusha Joshi, our Curator, about finding the right voices. We sifted through many suggestions and received numerous messages from people eager to share their stories. It wasn't easy to say no, but we were committed to finding genuine stories that could resonate with a broader audience. Many thanks to #TED team for giving this opportunity to me and considering me worth to get the license.

In the end, we found exactly what we were looking for—seven incredible women from Nagpur who have made significant contributions in diverse fields such as industry, social work, law, healthcare, dance, and research. These women were more than just accomplished professionals; they were living examples of what it means to be empowered, courageous, and true to oneself.

Our event, “Being Me,” held at the Raisoni College auditorium in collaboration with Raisoni Foundation, featured an inspiring lineup. 

We had Snehal Kashyap

(https://youtu.be/WAW709unxLk?si=hCJ0P3djvs0Z-V9U),

a passionate social activist who founded the “Ae Zindagi Foundation” to support differently-abled children and their parents—a journey inspired by her experience as a mother of a child with cerebral palsy. 

Neerja Pathania (https://youtu.be/zudrXk8kwQ8?si=rLtyE1XuT3sieAZZ) , an entrepreneur, shared her story of leveraging her networking skills during the COVID-19 pandemic to help those in need, reminding us of the power of community and connection.

Advocate Smita Singalkar (https://youtu.be/bymx-dgdGWM?si=rCmF2UrrVyNm5DCo) took the stage to discuss critical issues about women’s rights and laws, 

while Priyanka Abhyankar (https://youtu.be/EukUsQ92O8Q?si=2yThSWaQzGQOupcR), a Kathak dancer, mesmerized us with her journey from passion to inner bliss through dance. 

Priti Ramakrishnan (https://youtu.be/4naAZqug-jA?si=wgECPO33yM3sK4MP), Co-founder of ImmverseAI, gave a thought-provoking presentation on how AI technology can be used to promote ancient Indian Vedic knowledge, blending tradition with modern innovation. 

Dr. Neelam Chhajed (https://youtu.be/K3azJ51HHBA?si=7FZjG1zHzfAavfgf) provided deep insights into the role of genetics in modern obstetrics, and 

Palak Sethiya (https://youtu.be/od5QpZgUUHs?si=T8NKZo-Ybvmnd3Ql), Director of Gold Circle Ventures, shared personal reflections on how small actions can shape our future.

Every single one of these talks was powerful, moving, and thought-provoking. And today, I am overjoyed to share that all of these talks have been approved and are now available on the #TED global platform! This incredible achievement is something that fills me with immense happiness and pride.

I won’t lie; the journey to this point wasn’t smooth. Manjusha and I had our fair share of calls, heated discussions, and debates about which stories would truly resonate with our audience and make an impact. We often had differing opinions, but what kept us going was our shared commitment to showcase the stories that deserved to be heard. It was all about finding those authentic voices who could inspire others through their journeys of self-discovery and empowerment. There were moments when tensions ran high, and yes, I did scold quite a few people along the way—including some of our speakers and team members. But every word spoken came from a place of passion and a desire to push everyone to deliver their best.

I’m incredibly grateful to everyone who made this possible. From our fantastic PR team to the volunteers who worked tirelessly behind the scenes, and to our inspiring speakers—thank you for bringing your passion, energy, and authenticity to the stage. A special shoutout to our wonderful partner, Dr. Amina Vali, Great Supporter Mr. Sunil Raisoni and our dynamic anchor, Dr. Sakina Raghib, who kept the audience engaged throughout the event. Cannot miss thanking Lakhvinder and Snehal because of whom I can focus on other assignments too.

Reflecting on this journey, I am reminded of how powerful teamwork and collaboration can be. There were moments when we faced challenges and had tough conversations, but every single person involved brought their best to the table, and that made all the difference. The success we achieved is truly a collective one, and it’s a shining example of what we can accomplish when we come together with a shared vision.

Looking ahead, I’m excited for what’s next. I know that with this incredible team and the continued support of our community, we will continue to bring inspiring stories to the global stage. Here’s to more successful events, more powerful stories, and more moments that make us all proud!

  

Running Your Own Race

 

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about how we often get caught up in comparing ourselves to others—whether it’s at work, among friends, or even within our own families. It’s easy to feel like we’re constantly in a race, trying to outdo someone else or prove that we’re better in some way. But recently, I came across a story on WhatsApp that really made me pause and reflect on this mindset.

The story, though simple, carried a powerful message that hit home for me. It made me realize how easily we can lose sight of our own journey when we’re too focused on competing with others. Let me share it with you—it might just change the way you think about your own life.

A person was out cycling and noticed someone else on a bike, about a quarter kilometer ahead of them. Seeing that the other cyclist was moving a bit slower, they decided to pick up the pace and try to catch up. With only a kilometer left before they needed to take a turn, they started pedaling faster and faster, focused on closing the gap.

As they pushed harder, they could feel themselves getting closer to the other cyclist. Before long, they were just 100 yards behind. Determined to overtake them, they pushed even harder, imagining they were in a race.

Finally, they did it—they passed the other cyclist. Inside, they felt a surge of satisfaction, thinking, "I beat them!" But then, reality hit. They realized that in their rush to pass the other cyclist, they had completely missed their turn. They had gone six blocks too far and now had to backtrack to get back on their route.

Reading this story, I couldn’t help but see how it mirrors what happens in life. How often do we get caught up in competing with others? We see what someone else is doing—maybe they have a better job, a nicer house, or more success—and we start racing to catch up or even overtake them. We focus so much on others that we lose sight of our own path.

This story made me reflect on my own life. How many times have I done the same thing—competing with colleagues, comparing myself to friends, or trying to prove something to others? But what’s the point? There will always be someone ahead, someone who seems to have it better.

The real lesson is that life isn’t a race against others. It’s about staying focused on our own journey. We each have our own unique path, and it’s important to appreciate where we are and what we have. It’s about growing and improving at our own pace, not trying to outdo everyone else.

This simple story reminded me that there’s no need to compete with others. My life is my own race, and the only person I need to compete with is myself. It’s about being better today than I was yesterday and being content with who I am and where I’m headed.

Although I might not change or keep thinking as I usually do, but the story made me realize that what really matters isn’t beating others or proving something to the world. It’s about staying true to myself, focusing on my own goals, and wishing others well on their journey. In the end, that’s what brings true happiness and peace than making pieces of your own mind.

Crying Like a Baby: Your Secret to Adulting Success

Ah, the age-old saying, "Why are you crying like a baby?" As if showing emotion is some grand betrayal of our stoic facades. We’ve all heard it. "Oh please, weak people only do that." Right, because suppressing feelings is the ultimate mark of strength. Spoiler alert: it’s not. Crying is a natural part of our human experience, something we all do when we're sad, happy, or simply overwhelmed.

It is not me saying this but a renowned for its authoritative health information and research-backed article do. Recently, I stumbled upon an enlightening article on the Harvard Health Blog titled "Is Crying Good for You?" It beautifully explains the many benefits of shedding tears, highlighting how crying is essential for our health and well-being. It got me thinking about a dear friend of mine, Anu, and her journey with embracing her tears. Her story is a perfect example of how sometimes, those tears lead us to better things later.

Anu was going through a tough time. Her grandmother, who had been a pillar of strength and love in her life, had passed away. Anu felt a heavy weight on her heart, but she held back her tears, thinking she needed to stay strong for her family. Days passed, and the burden of her unexpressed grief started to affect her. She couldn't concentrate at work, felt constantly anxious, and was easily irritated.

One evening, Anu finally allowed herself to cry. As she sat on her bed, memories of her grandmother flooded her mind, and the tears came freely. She cried for what felt like hours, letting out all the pain and sorrow she had bottled up inside. Afterward, she felt a sense of relief she hadn't experienced since her grandmother's passing. The tears had washed away a part of her grief, making the load a little lighter.

This experience mirrors what the Harvard Health Blog article explains: crying isn't just about expressing sadness; it's a powerful way to relieve stress. When we cry, our tears carry away stress hormones and other toxins from our bodies, which can significantly lighten our emotional burden. This detoxifying process helps explain why we often feel a sense of relief and calmness after a good cry. Our bodies release endorphins during crying, which are chemicals that elevate our mood and create a feeling of well-being.

Moreover, crying plays a crucial role in helping us understand and process our emotions. Anu's tears allowed her to confront and process her grief, bringing her a step closer to healing. This process is particularly therapeutic during periods of intense emotional distress, helping us navigate our feelings and gain clarity.

Crying also has a remarkable way of bringing us closer to others. The day after Anu's emotional release, she shared her feelings with her best friend, Meera. As she spoke about her grandmother, tears flowed again, but this time, Meera's comforting presence made a huge difference. Meera listened, hugged her, and shared her own memories of Anu's grandmother, which made Anu feel supported and understood. This bond of empathy and support strengthened their friendship.

There are physical benefits to crying as well. Emotional tears, unlike the ones that merely keep our eyes moist, contain higher levels of stress hormones and toxins. By shedding these tears, we help our bodies expel harmful substances, contributing to our overall health. Additionally, the endorphins released during crying act as natural painkillers, providing physical relief and comfort.

However, it's important to acknowledge that crying doesn't always have positive effects for everyone. For some, it can intensify feelings of helplessness or cause discomfort, especially in inappropriate settings. Excessive crying may also indicate underlying mental health issues such as depression or anxiety, which require professional attention.

As Harvard is underlining, crying is a natural, beneficial response to life's ups and downs. It helps us reduce stress, process emotions, connect with others, and even improve our physical health. Understanding and embracing our tears, as Anu did, can lead to a healthier, more balanced life. But don’t you think it’s simply a natural phenomenon? So next time someone tells you to stop crying, just thank them for their concern and continue your path to a healthier you. After all, it’s not every day you get a free emotional detox session! For those who want to delve deeper into this topic, the full article is available on the Harvard Health BlogJ.

 

Invisible Chains: Understanding the Weight of Mental Torture

Today, Kartik and I, while waiting in a school for our daughter, delved into a discussion of what torture means. While discussing one case of physical abuse, Kartik's opinion was that this is the only thing that can be called torture. Mental or any other form of distress, he argued, is nothing to be treated or called as torture. My point, however, was that while physical abuse is visible and often prompts immediate action, mental torture is like a poison—unseen but slowly killing one from the inside.

The often invisible nature of mental health struggles means that many signs are easily overlooked. People may laugh and smile a lot, using humor to mask inner turmoil. They can look put together, with a well-groomed appearance that does not always reflect inner peace. Ambition, seen in dreams and goals, can coexist with mental health challenges.

Even professional success, symbolized by having a career, does not equate to personal well-being. A caring family and supportive relationships, while crucial, might not be enough to combat inner struggles. External appearances can be deceiving; someone who seems to be OK on the outside may be suffering internally. A happy childhood is not a guarantee of a trouble-free present, and optimistic words often hide feelings of sadness or anxiety. Planning for the future can sometimes be a coping mechanism, masking deeper issues.

Many people suffer in silence without seeking or receiving medical help, as they do not have a diagnosis or medication. These factors combined make it easy to miss identifying mental health issues, as the visible signs do not always tell the full story. People who laugh, smile, and appear put together can still be fighting intense internal battles. The absence of visible signs or formal diagnoses often leads to the misconception that everything is fine, but the reality is far more complex.

Ignoring mental health issues or the emotional torture some people experience can have severe consequences. In some cases, untreated mental distress can lead individuals down a path of criminal behavior. There are many instances where mental torture has contributed to the making of criminals, who often lack emotional connections with society or their families. When such suffering is overlooked, it can fester, leading to actions that harm both the individual and the community.

Consider the case of a child who envies their sibling. This envy, if left unaddressed, can grow into intense resentment and emotional turmoil. Without proper emotional support or intervention, the child's feelings can become overwhelming. In extreme cases, this can lead to the child taking heinous steps to harm their sibling. The untreated mental distress and emotional torture the child experiences are not just personal issues but can escalate into actions that have severe consequences for both the family and the community at large. This example underscores the importance of recognizing and addressing mental health issues early on, ensuring individuals receive the support they need to prevent such tragic outcomes.

These hidden struggles remind us that mental well-being is not solely dependent on external success or societal markers. True well-being requires a deeper connection with oneself and an appreciation for life's simple yet profound luxuries. This brings us to the concept of real luxuries, which are accessible to all and hold the key to genuine happiness and contentment.

Reflecting on the conversation with Kartik, I realized that recognizing and addressing mental torture is just as crucial as dealing with physical abuse. Both forms of suffering deserve attention and action. Through this journey of understanding and appreciation, we can all strive for a life filled with the true luxuries that nurture our minds and hearts.

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Remembering Vivek Bansod

The morning of November 22nd, 2022, was a huge shock. I felt chills when I got the news about you on the call. Losing you, Dr. Vivek Bansod, has been really tough. It wasn't like one of your usual surprises. It's a deep loss that's hard to accept. Memories keep coming back, and it's still hitting me really hard.

Your laughter was infectious. It could light up the darkest of days. The way you lived music—truly lived it—was inspiring. You weren't just a listener or a singer; you embodied the very essence of music. Our jam sessions were filled with such joy and creativity. You would often shout at me for changing the scale while singing, but even your reprimands were laced with love and humour. It was in those moments that I felt most alive, most connected to you.

Visiting Ujjain became synonymous with visiting you. The anticipation of seeing you, the warmth of your open arms ready to hug and welcome me, was something I always looked forward to. Your funny faces and silly jokes were a testament to your playful spirit. You knew how to make me laugh, how to lift my spirits with just a look or a word.

Listening to my heart’s outpourings without any fear or shyness was a gift you gave me. You created a safe space where I could be my true self, without any pretence or facade. Your understanding and empathy were boundless. It was not like we did not have any difference of opinions but with that we were friends.

Exploring this deeper, I realize how much those moments meant to me. Your presence was a constant source of comfort and joy. You had this incredible ability to make me feel understood and supported. Whether I was sharing my latest achievements or my deepest fears, you listened with an open heart and mind. You motivated me to push through tough times and celebrated my victories as if they were your own.

You always had a way of bringing humor and warmth into every situation. Your joke about celebrating your birthday twice wasn’t just a funny anecdote; it symbolized your ability to connect deeply with everyone around you. For you, life was about building meaningful relationships and making everyone feel special. The “two birthdays” joke was your way of acknowledging the different circles in your life and how you cherished each one uniquely.

You made time for everyone, whether it was your professional acquaintances or your close family and friends. It was as if you had two lives that intertwined seamlessly, and you honored both with equal joy and commitment. This dual celebration (due to other date in docs so for professional) was a testament to your inclusive nature, showing that you valued every connection and relationship deeply.

Now, as we faced another June 17th without you, the memory of your joke brings both a smile and a tear. It reminds me of the countless ways you made our lives richer and more vibrant. Your ability to blend humor with heartfelt connection was something truly special. It’s this blend of logic and emotion that made you such an irreplaceable part of our lives.

Your absence has left a void that no amount of time can fill. I will always miss our talks about music, your programs, Kirtans, management, and HR. I miss sharing my professional struggles and finding solace in your words. Each after Nov. 2022 June 17^th and Nov 22^nd, and every other day, I remember your spirit, your wisdom, and the joy you brought.

Layman Approach to Understand The Balance of Power : Reflections on the Lok Sabha Election Results

Since we started understanding the world around us, we've learned that political parties significantly impact the thoughts, culture, growth, development, and economy of a nation. For any nation, a balance between the right and the left is essential. A strong opposition makes governance more robust and ensures that checks and balances are maintained. After checking various influencers' reports and news discussions, my small mind came up with an understanding of a few key things about the recent Lok Sabha election results. The reactions have been mixed: shocking for the BJP and its followers, and a cause for celebration for the rest. But what is the real reason behind the celebrations? Is it the victory of the opposition, or the setback for the BJP?

One key observation is the movement of the vote bank from Mayawati's Bahujan Samaj Party (BSP) to other parties, reflecting disenchantment among her supporters. Additionally, the impact of caste and reservation policies, particularly in states like Maharashtra and Uttar Pradesh (UP), played a crucial role. In West Bengal, the BJP faced a different challenge due to intense polarization, which they were unable to counter effectively. This highlights the hyper local nature of the recent elections, where regional issues took precedence over national narratives.

In nearly all the analysis discussions, one point was common that, the election results in UP were primarily influenced by caste and community dynamics. The Congress, although it saw a slight increase in vote share, was not the major gainer. Instead, the Samajwadi Party (SP) contributed significantly, with the election driven by Muslim consolidation and caste orientation. This led to a substantial shift in votes away from the BJP. Despite claims that these results signify the defeat of Brand Modi, his influence remained strong in other states like Odisha, MP and Tamil Nadu. In these regions, the BJP made significant inroads, showcasing that while their traction may have reduced in some areas, it remained formidable in others. (Map of Bharat is still more in Bhagwa than blue as per the presentations shown)

Then what was the positive thing to look at? Why not to appreciate the other side of winners.  One of the major reasons for the opposition's success was their unified front. By eliminating separate identities and consolidating their efforts, they presented a stronger challenge to the BJP. Notably, Mayawati ji chose not to contest, thereby consolidating votes and impacting the results significantly. Caste and reservation issues again played a crucial role, particularly in UP.

Now emotions talking about see how people don’t support. Let’s see, that in states like UP and particularly Ayodhya, local grievances contributed to the BJP's losses. For instance, small retailers in Ayodhya were adversely affected by sudden development projects initiated to transform the city into a major religious and tourist hub. While the large-scale development promised long-term benefits, the immediate disruption to local businesses created resentment. Shopkeepers and small traders found their livelihoods threatened by the construction activities and the influx of large corporations, which led to a sense of neglect and abandonment by the government. (anyhow the visitors to Ayodhya are not voters, but all the small but important local ones are).

Moreover, the lack of recognition for local sacrifices during the Ayodhya ceremony served as a poignant example of political insensitivity. While the government may have touted the grandeur of the event and its significance on a national level, the failure to acknowledge the contributions and hardships of local communities struck a chord with many voters. Their sense of disillusionment was further fueled by the perception that their concerns were being overlooked in favor of political grandstanding.

Furthermore, the selection of unpopular candidates further alienated voters. In Ayodhya, the BJP candidate was a high-profile figure with a strong national presence but lacked local connect and grassroots support. This disconnect was evident as many voters felt their specific regional concerns were not adequately represented or addressed. The opposition effectively capitalized on this sentiment by creating a fear of constitutional changes, resonating with the electorate's concerns.

Now comes the smallest but important part. The strategic use of words in political speeches is akin to wielding a double-edged sword; it can either bolster support or sow seeds of doubt and discontent among voters. During the recent Lok Sabha elections, this tactic played a pivotal role in shaping public opinion and influencing voter sentiment. Politicians carefully crafted their messages to resonate with specific demographics, often exploiting emotive issues to rally support.

Misinterpretations and negative perceptions further compounded the impact of political speech-making. For instance, a statement taken out of context or twisted to fit a particular narrative could sway public opinion against a candidate or party. In the heat of election campaigns, sensationalized headlines and social media rumors often clouded the truth, leading to confusion and distrust among voters.

Many things are there to discuss if we don’t want to discuss the development part. Leave all behind, now results are out so, the question arises: Are the opposition parties celebrating their own victory, or are they celebrating the BJP's losses? The new government includes alliance with the party that have ruled for the past ten years on it’s own, yet the celebration seems more about stopping the BJP rather than claiming a clear victory. That’s why just thought to proceed with some significant comparisons.

As a student or can say out of learners curiosity just opted examining the curve of the last three general elections that gives us a framework to understand the current scenario. Comparing past elections offers insights into public sentiment and political strategies. For example, in 2009, after five years of Congress governance, they received 206 seats, indicating public acceptance. However, after ten years, they plummeted to 44 seats in 2014.

The 2014 election was driven by hope – the hope for change and revolution. In 2019, it was built on trust – a belief that five more years were needed for the promised transformation. However, 2024 seems to be characterized by escapism and reluctance – somehow a sentiment that there was no other viable option and somewhere a fear of losing things.

Similarly, the BJP, after five years in power, crossed 300 seats in 2019. After ten years, they secured around 240 seats. Despite some public discontent, this level of support indicates significant acceptance. Consider Gujarat: in 2017, BJP's lower performance was seen as a sign of decline. However, by 2022, they had turned the situation around completely, demonstrating their ability to correct mistakes and adapt. (Parties have to be Cautious in that case)

Finally, we can understand that the recent Lok Sabha results underscore the complexities of Indian politics (whatever one say, nature, connect, emotions, development, growth etc etc whatever). They highlight the importance of local issues, strategic alliances, and effective communication. While the BJP faces the challenge of introspection and realignment, the opposition must build on their gains to ensure sustainable progress. Ultimately, the elections reflect the dynamic nature of democracy, where power and influence are constantly negotiated and redefined by the electorate. The results reiterate the need for a balanced political landscape, where a strong opposition ensures effective governance. Moving forward, the focus should be on addressing the core issues that matter to the electorate and fostering a political environment that thrives on diversity and balance. People like me (if Voted) should focus on learning, discussing, understanding, unlearning and relearning but not augmenting on the area which not my cup of coffee !!