It was the matter of a call I received from my friend and she said,"Look finally I am giving you a topic to write on your blog", Woah, here I realised that since long I have not posted a word on my blog{As usual I am not a great writer to remember it or neither have lane of followers who wait to read the posts ;-)}
Before landing up on the point, I wish to share a story of my friend here.
For sure I am not going to share her name but this incidence may relate to many married or girls in relationship or girls with break ups.
Once I received a call from my friend and she said,"I really need a support, I am totally broken up", after my office hours we planned a meet.
when we met, before saying a single word she broke into tears.
"I really want to come out of this web" she said.
I was very sure that she is about to discuss her so called love life for which I have already suggested her to leave it.{I am not a Jodi breaker...Please}
She was in a relationship which she cannot share to anybody.
She had a boyfriend but that guy was interested in only one thing. {Sorry...} I came on conclusion on a very next moment When she told me months before that he said "I Love You but I cannot Marry you cause I have family to follow and you should marry anybody but don't ask this to me".
See boss to marry or not, is a decision of them but playing with the emotion every now and then breaks the trust on the concept altogether this is what I understand with smallest brain. She used to meet him often whenever he wants. At start it was very normal and she was on the cloud nine that she is in Love and will settle soon.
Later she came to know about the real nature of that guy. He was may be misogamist, but loved to be in relation with girls till he gets bored or that girl gets serious about the relation. (Sorry but I guess this was the only situation)
This Stupid Girl Loved him and followed whatever he liked, Even she has no option to say no to what he says, and when she said that she was... when she recollected and tried to express that she did what all he wanted, his answer was "Like you never wanted it, Like you never provoked, Like you...."and so on.. all the coins turned crashed on her, and she is crying in front of me now.
I truly felt to slap her tight(yes I am like this sometimes), cause yes it was her fault, she allowed him to play with her emotions.
this incident flashed in front of me when came across towards the dialogue of Pink # ‘Na’ sirf ek shabd nahi… apne aap mein pura vakya hai. Ise kisi tark, spashtikaran,explanation ya vyakhya ki jaroorat nahi hoti.
#These boys must realise that No ka matlab No hota hai. Use bolne wali ladki koi parichit ho, friend ho, girlfriend ho, koi sex worker ho ya aapki apni biwi hi kyu na ho. ‘No’ means no and when someone says No, you stop.
Anyways coming to the point, My friend gave me a topic as per her messages. She shared the dialogues from the much discussed and appreciated movie Pink. After reading her messages I again realised that I have not seen the movie yet. I made a point to watch it on the same day. To confess a bit, I saw the movie on my Tab {Sorry...}... I am really sorry for that. But loved the movie and felt "Yes, This is what people are when it comes to matter of a women, This is how they treat when it comes to matter of.......".
So let's discuss, anyhow it is not that necessary but Important is How the dialogues of Pink is True and are taken from the real situations of so called Cultured society.
# Hamare yaha ghadi ki sui, character decide karti hai : What time girl or women arrives back at home truly decides her character, it hardly matters to her family but the neighbors and other contractors of society are very keen on it. If you want to check it, then just try it once by going to any colony or society you know and any friend or known stays there but has no such unnecessary gossip contacts with the neighbors, just ask them how that girl is? They will provide you the details which the girl or the family of hers has no idea about. Even the boyfriend do not consider to make that girl his life partner who was out with him for long hours. cause if this girl stays out for long hours, she is not a Material to take in front of his family. What to say more?
#Kisi bhi ladki ko, kisi bhi ladke ke saath, kahi bhi akele nahi jana chahiye. Kyunki aisa karne pe, wahan ke log ye assume kar lete hai ki wo ladki willingly wahan pe aayi hai aur unhe usse touch karne ka license issue kar dia gaya hai. : I totally agree to this point. Now don't ask why. Every Girl knows the answer. Being a girl I can explain some points. But again just ask a boy who you know and is of nature to judge girls. You will get number of examples.
#Raat ko ladkiyan jab sadak pe akeli jaati hai to gaadiyaan slow jaati hai aur unke sheeshe neeche ho jate hai. Din mei ye mahan idea kisiko nahi aata. : Major problem of the society is, if a girl stays out for long, lets say till 11.00 for example then also that girl becomes the topic of discussion. Bhaisahab not only for the housewives chatting in the noon but the working ladies too. then what to comment about men with the same gossip girl mentality if they see girl out at night.
# Sharab ko yaha ek galat character ki nishani maana jaata hai, sirf ladkiyon ke liye. Ladkon ke liye to ye sirf ek Health Hazard hai! : I never booze, but what's wrong if any girl does so? why it ultimately lands up on the character of that girl if she drinks. Everyone must be having their perspectives on it but why to categorize women who drinks if you do not do the same for men.
#Rock show mei hai to hint hai. Library ya mandir mein hai to hint nahi hai! Venue decide karta hai aapka character. #Jo ladkiyan party mei jaati hai aur drink karti hai, wo pushtaini hak ban jaati hai aapka: Again it is a valid point. OMG we have seen girls who managed their family very well in spite they love going out for Rock shows, were those girls fooling them. Only by seeing girls in Mandir or Library, one cannot be sure about. Actually Character word is now a days became very popular to define the person. Any tom dick and harry use it without pipping into his/her own. Some of the user even might not aware the meaning of the word. What do you think?!
#Shahar mein ladkiyon ko akela nahi rehna chahiye. Ladke reh sakte hai par ladkiyan nahi. Akeli, independent ladkiyan, ladkon ko confuse kar deti hai.: According to the society these girls not only confuses the boys but also confuses the other members of society. For example if that girl works in a night shift of a company, then Kuch Toh Gadbad Hai, for sure something is fishy with that girl, Bla Bla Bla.... and this happens with Girls only. If they are not with their parents then they have to follow the rules as per the list given by the landlords or other residents etc etc...without even a single iteration society contractors passes the judgements.
#Agar ladkiyan, ladkon ke saath dinner ya drinks pe jaati hai to ye unki apni choice hoti hai. Avaialable hone ka sign board nahi banke jaati. : Why not yaar, if you are going out with someone for lunch, Walk, Dinner or just meet casually, can't it be a simple normal friendship. why it becomes a matter of discussion and again a point to discuss the character.
Isn't it true that not only men but the women are also equally responsible for the insult of other women. The mentality and thought process of a women for other women varies as per her observation for that women.
If she is good looking, then she is flaunting in front of men. If she is highly qualified ten she is not of their types. If she has her own style of dealing with things, then Pata hai na how is she bla bla bla... Sorry to say but this will not change for at least in near future. you will always find discrimination, if She is girl then she should do this or that, If she is girl why she require higher salaries, If she is getting higher salary then she has something fishy with the boss, If she is girl she must concentrate on kitchen even if she is working and qualified, Anyhow being girl She have to get married that she do not have any choice... Boy should like her first na, what rights she has boss...She should do this, she must do that just because she is she, a Girl a Women who loves Pink. Cause Pink is her color and later becomes her destiny. I may be wrong, but can we make the things right??
