If you really #wish, you can beat #Fatal… Archana Shantanu Das doing it.

September 2014, I have found her on FB finally.  I knew her since so long when she was associated with Hedgewar Blood bank here in Nagpur. A very good singer, writer, Social worker, friendly lady and a smiling personality. We got comfortable in very first meet of ours and she became my Archu Tai. Sorry her name is Archana, Archana Shantanu Das. Honestly speaking I just knew her as Archu Tai, I never tried to know anything more about her. “Veglya Vata” an event organized by well known cultural organization of Nagpur, it was a reason of an event, and I came to know actual Archana Arun Sathe. This event of Saptak invites personalities from various fields who did path breaking work in their areas. Here I met a new Archana who is been called as Cancer Survivor. Very shockingly I wanted to react but in a very next moment I felt fantastic “What a Lady boss”. 

Everyone must be confused now. Who’s this lady to whom I am calling Archana Shantanu Das and Archana Arun Sathe.  A girl born in a typical middle class Brahmin family who lost her only earning hand, her father when she was in 12^th standard. Here started the struggle of her life where she required to take care about her mother who was always a home maker, younger brother and a sister. This young girl became a prop up to her family and started a mess where she prepared food for 25 working people daily. Later she resumed her studies and started doing pretty well.

Life was now on track and in 1990 Archana got married to an Engineer. Her happy married life encouraged her to move for the further areas of her interest related to social service and she joined Hedgewar blood Bank where she participated organizing number of Blood Donation Camps. Later she joined Saksham an NGO for blind and disable people. Here she wrote a book “Salam” and organized musical group of disabled people to perform on stage and got them in the mainstream of life. The lady who was trying to bring some light to the blinds suddenly thrown into the dark by destiny as she was diagnosed with a breast cancer in 2008. With this monster of illness she successfully came out after getting operated by Dr. Ajay Mehta. But during her treatment it was again became a victim to a black game of destiny and she lost her mother who had cancer. The fatal game of destiny did not stopped here, just after a month she lost her mother, she lost her husband too. Now Archana was totally discouraged.

Somehow, Archana stood tranquil and accepted the challenge of destiny. Somewhere she realized the message behind all this. She completed her medical transcription course and joined Central India Cancer Research Institute as a counselor. Now she started arranging workshop, seminars, Awareness Campaigns for cancer patients and early detection of Cancer. She is very inclined towards educating women regarding this monster disease.  She not only takes the camps in Nagpur but wherever she identifies, she visit and conduct the sessions. She is associated to Sadhana Charitable Trust, an NGO working for women welfare and rehabilitation of cancer patients. This trust honored her with fearless award. Archana not only helped poor people but she took oath to devote herself for such good causes. People are getting benefited from her all out efforts. She helped people to be in reach to Rajiv Gandhi Arogya Yojana and she is constantly working to motivate people to get rid from the fear of Monster Cancer.

How good it is when you realize the massage behind your life. In spite of all the problem and challenges from childhood she battled well. It is said that you are the creator of your destiny, what you sent out you get back. Archana is the live example for this. She did all good without cursing anybody for her fatal and she started receiving the good too. In the year 2012 she took a very tough decision to getting married again. Santanu Das gave her a trust to believe in it. Shantanu liked all the good in her and became companion in her mission too.  

Archana is really fearless... She has a long journey to go she says. Let us too believe that fatal is not final, show must go on…

 

Maturity, an infant soul.

Few month before I have posted on my #FB #timeline, "Maturity has no relation with Age". I have received ample of replies on it. Whereas, later I posted, rather I can say I extended that line as Maturity has no relation with Age, Qualification, Profession, Ability to earn, Financial or Social status and so on... have analyzed that this particular list is not at all related to maturity. Now one may shout at me and say or ask, how can you speak about maturity? Actually by my style or looks I don't appear as a matured creature. This is what I know about me {Thank god this happens so. ;-)}.  But does it really required that you should look mature to be mature? Oh my my such a complex question. I am very rough when I enter in such arguments. As I always say I am a keen observer, I really do observe such things then and now. Ok let's be bit serious {Sorry I do not have any emoticon to express my seriousness}believe me I am very serious on this but not in #ICU.

I never keep questions to me I speak it  aloud and the benefit of this is I get answers from all the directions. So when I expressed my confusion regarding "What's Maturity !!!" I got a message forwarded on whatsapp through my friend saying 'Definition provided by thinkers regarding What's Maturity!' I have just kept my opinion on the wise thoughts of them as per the reality of today's era It is not the final answer but it can avoid fatal of being victimized to immaturity. I have just tried to analyze it again. It says #Maturity is when you...

1. Stop trying to change others, but instead focus on changing yourself : True but to add one more thing, While focusing on yourself do not forget other who really want you to be as you are.

2. Accept people who they are : this does not mean that you do not have any choice. while accepting them put your limits of accepting what.

3. Understand everyone is right in their own perspective : But do not shadow yours.

4. Learn to "let go" : You should but look into it that your loved ones are not doing the same with you just because of your let go attitude.

5. Are able to drop "expectations" from a relationship and give for the sake of giving : You may not expect but the other can. You should understand that also and cannot expect that they should also do the same as you are doing.

6. Understand whatever you do, you do for your own peace : Sometimes your peace becomes hassle to the peace of other. {My neighbor plays spiritual music in the morning for the sake of his mental peace which breaks mine into pieces} Do take care when you are finding peace for yourself.

7. Stop proving to the world, how intelligent you are : yeah very true. better you keep mum and develop listening capacity of yours. specially when you are aware that the one you are listening to is an idiot or I, Me, Myself kind a person.But it's a fun anyhow.

8. Do not seek approval from others : It is related to yourself. but it is required in many incidences otherwise you will get into trouble. Even if when things are right and you are very sure that it is just best then also seeking for approval provides you some sort of peace and happiness to the other to whom you are asking it to approve. but yes not applied everywhere.

9. Stop comparing with others : Why to? it is really not required. Every being is an unique creation of god. Start respecting yourself. Compare only when the result of comparison will not disheartened or demotivate you.

10. Are at peace with yourself.: and you will be when you really want to be. As i said respect yourself. It allows to deny disrespect and harsh behavior of others and a strength to fight for self. Once you are sure that you are happy and ok with whatever you have and you have faith in self. See now you will be at peace with yourself.

11. Are able to differentiate between "need" and "want" and are able to let go of your wants : This is very much required. I have seen people running behind things like a freak, but not getting any satisfaction then also. I have even seen madly in love with shopping kind of a people and anyhow e commerce helped these great lovers by being a headache to the other members specially the one who require to pay for it or bearing the madness.

12. Stop attaching "happiness" to material things : Once you stop running behind offers on various shopping sites and discounts on the apparels in malls you will find real happiness in being what you are. But it is bit difficult. Many have separate definitions of material and spiritual things.  

From all these points one may feel that really such things matter or are they hypothetical? are these things really deal with the concept of maturity? leave it... we will again land on ample of questions. But yes just keep keen observation on the behaviours, words, interpretations and so on... things of yours and other too. You will get to know that Maturity really has no relation with Age, Qualification and all the factors that have stated before.

So, all this stuff seem enough but still I am searching the meaning and I am sure I will land up on a concrete solution very soon. {Hopefully} Otherwise I am Enjoying the award winning performances of all the real life actors, Hope you too.... Let's come back to this topic very soon.